Hello. I have a situation with a girl from my work & i'm sure how to proceed. I've been working there for a a few years & she started about 6 months ago.
We work in an office & she was sat next to me. Over the following months we got on well together, I was trying out & testing the seduction material here like for the hell of it, & while nothing overt happened, i think she was starting grow fond of me.
We had a few work nights out & we spent the majority of those nights together, drinking, having fun, dancing, ect. There is flirting going on & KINO both ways.
I didn't try anything 'cause, technically, she's not single, but the relationship isn't majorly serious & she's subtly hinted that she would leave him.
I also didn't want to try something, get rejected & then our growing friendship would be ruined, not to mention the awkward work environment that would follow.
Anyway, i thought we still had time to slowly build things between us.. But then, a new bunch of people have started at work & to accommodate them, they've moved everyone around. We don't sit next to each other anymore. A new guy is now sat next to her & i'm too far away to really communicate with her.
They seem to really be getting on together. Laughing & constantly talking. I didn't think she would really go for him 'cause, he's about 7 years older, engaged, not in great shape, & from the little bits of conversation i've heard, he's making some classic mistakes, ie. talking more about himself, bringing up boring subjects like movies, music & even politics!
I thought that i'd be strong & not show her how much i quite like her & went from occasional contact, to which she was extremely enthusiastic, to rare contact, making her chase me, you know. Not looking desperate.
I have noticed her glancing at me sometimes when i walk across the office & even overheard her talking about me in a positive manner.
But, we had another work night out & while we did have some fun chats, just like the old days, she was also quite flirty with the new guy. Play fighting (she's never play fighted with me), joking & spending more time with him than me.
Back at work, & i'm still keeping up this front, talking more with my colleagues trying to let her chase me, but she's not really doing that. She's still laughing & joking with the other guy, & while she's not ignoring me, she's not really making any extra effort to talk with me.
I don't know if i'm just being paranoid, i mean, the guy is engaged! But i'm not sure this showing no interest & pretending i'm getting on just fine without her is working.
But then again, it might be. There's a chance that she's playing these rules back at me, which might explain the overt flirting with the other guy, but then, maybe she does like him..
I don't know what to do. Should i keep up with the casual don't care attitude? should i show her interest? What do you think?
We work in an office & she was sat next to me. Over the following months we got on well together, I was trying out & testing the seduction material here like for the hell of it, & while nothing overt happened, i think she was starting grow fond of me.
We had a few work nights out & we spent the majority of those nights together, drinking, having fun, dancing, ect. There is flirting going on & KINO both ways.
I didn't try anything 'cause, technically, she's not single, but the relationship isn't majorly serious & she's subtly hinted that she would leave him.
I also didn't want to try something, get rejected & then our growing friendship would be ruined, not to mention the awkward work environment that would follow.
Anyway, i thought we still had time to slowly build things between us.. But then, a new bunch of people have started at work & to accommodate them, they've moved everyone around. We don't sit next to each other anymore. A new guy is now sat next to her & i'm too far away to really communicate with her.
They seem to really be getting on together. Laughing & constantly talking. I didn't think she would really go for him 'cause, he's about 7 years older, engaged, not in great shape, & from the little bits of conversation i've heard, he's making some classic mistakes, ie. talking more about himself, bringing up boring subjects like movies, music & even politics!
I thought that i'd be strong & not show her how much i quite like her & went from occasional contact, to which she was extremely enthusiastic, to rare contact, making her chase me, you know. Not looking desperate.
I have noticed her glancing at me sometimes when i walk across the office & even overheard her talking about me in a positive manner.
But, we had another work night out & while we did have some fun chats, just like the old days, she was also quite flirty with the new guy. Play fighting (she's never play fighted with me), joking & spending more time with him than me.
Back at work, & i'm still keeping up this front, talking more with my colleagues trying to let her chase me, but she's not really doing that. She's still laughing & joking with the other guy, & while she's not ignoring me, she's not really making any extra effort to talk with me.
I don't know if i'm just being paranoid, i mean, the guy is engaged! But i'm not sure this showing no interest & pretending i'm getting on just fine without her is working.
But then again, it might be. There's a chance that she's playing these rules back at me, which might explain the overt flirting with the other guy, but then, maybe she does like him..
I don't know what to do. Should i keep up with the casual don't care attitude? should i show her interest? What do you think?
