"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The games she plays

Kaine

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The more I actively read/write about seduction and interact with women, the more I'm aware of the little games and powerplays that women will use to change/control or seek attention from you.


Recent "her" games:

1. She freezes you out, in my last encounter with this behaviour she turns away (in bed) becomes quiet and unresponsive.
2. Always seeking attention by touching and grabbing you, this applies to AWs.
3. Push, Pull, she ceases her consistent contact with you for an extended period of time.



I find that if you recognise these games before getting sucked into them, you of course react in a way which better increases or maintains much more interest then otherwise. Most women will play these games with you consciously or unconsciously. You may find that even if you are with a wonderful women she will play games with you and eventually you may get too comfortable and complacent until finally she gives you the "sorry not feeling it anymore speech". Why? Ultimately a women wants a man she can't control.


An effective reaction I will share with you when I encounter these:
Either Don't acknowledge the "her" play. (ignore her or her play)
Or Acknowledge the game indirectly by teasing her.(i.e. ****y and funny)



Results of application :
1. She comes back and pouts some more and clings to me
2. She continues to seek my attention and flirt whenever there is an encounter
3. Don't know don't care, but sure if I made this an issue to her, IL would have dropped



I've also noticed that often it's better not to "directly" admit to the "the game" been played. It's like fight club, you don't talk about fight club.


My question I pose for discussion is this, I just can't seem to verbalise the reason for myself as to why although I think I know. Why is it more effective when you don't directly verbalise that you recognise her games?

Kaine
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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catch

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yeah, i notice alot different patterns in girls behavior, and why dont you verbalize it??
because she doest realise she does it, its not conciously planned and innitiated, she doesnt know what game she is playing, it is subconcious what they do...

however, like a don jaun, some girls learn to master these subconcious attraction games tooo... so then they do know what they are doing and how to attract a man.

but ive never met a girl who knows what she is doing... ha ha
 

DeathDealer

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A girl plays these games because she wants to feel attractive and get attention. I usually act like nothing and do nothing unless the woman gives me clear buy signals such as "Come on already DeathDealer, let's go meet up" otherwise I just act neutral and concentrate on girls that do give me the time and day.
 
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