The Game : The Way I Play
I am breaking my game down into the main sections; Mindset, Opening, PUA method, Stories, Interests, Closing.
This site has given so much to me and lately I have grown to be totally over it. The number of keyboard jockeys grows every day, as does the number of newbies. There isn’t enough GOOD advice going around. This site has helped to change my life, I'm going to give back to it and help it to change yours.
Mindset: I owe a lot to this website for helping me develop a very solid mindset. Once upon a time, I believed that only good looking guys could have good looking girlfriends. I believed that I was about average looking. A 5. Therefore, I could have SOME HB5s. Maybe I'd be able to get a HB6 on a really good day. And if by chance I was able to grab a HB7 I should hold on for dear life.
This was compounded strongly by my friends, family, the media; basically every agent of socialization.
Over time, in my eyes, I grew to a 6, then a 7, and then it didn't matter.
My mindset had been completely reworked through other means of socialization; sosuave.com, personal experience, a couple of small scale PU sites, the Melbourne Lair, the Bristol Lair. I no longer see myself as a 5, 6, 7... Neither do I see myself as a 10. Or even a 12 as some guys suggest you should feel.
I see myself as attractive.
In my field, things are true, or false. 0 or 1. Power on or Power off.
Attractive or Unattractive.
There is nothing more, nothing less.
I can pull any girl who is attracted to me. I can spark attraction in every girl I come across. I believe this, due to experience. Reading WILL NOT ever make this belief congruent for you, the keyboard jockey.
Opening: I don't believe this is important. Far too much focus is placed on opening. I'd like to quote Juggler from his Seduction of Style Field report, as his words are so true.
"The first thing you say to a woman matters very little. Some guys tell me they can't think of anything or they need a really good line. I tell them they are thinking too much. You are not that important. I am not that important. We have never thought a thought so great that it needs to be wrapped with so much care. Give up your need for perfection. As far as opening lines go, a grunt or fart is sufficient."
Well, personally, I've never turned a fart into a pickup. But I let some lethal gas out. However, I have had some great responses walking past girls in a mall and 'blowing a raspberry' not sure if that is a universal action? - sticking out my tongue and making a farting noise.
Most of the time, I am not actively sarging. Cold approaching random girls. I am having my own fun. Doing my own thing.
I trained myself to hold eye contact. Whilst I am doing my own thing, having my own fun, girls WILL look at me, I'll hold this eye contact. We'll both smile, and then I'll approach. Normally with something cheesey like "Hmmm, You just turned 18. This is your first time at a club isn't it?" This works like a neg. normally I'll get a response like "No I'm X" then I'll bust on them. "Oh your X! WOW!"
But it's not important, no one will remember this.
Rapport/Comfort/Trust/DHVs etc: These things are all great! I'm sure. Because EVERYONE in this community tells me so. I don't doubt this. However, I'm not smart enough to think about all of this stuff whilst I'm running game. So I don't really have any method.
I'll basically fluff/vibe with the target and these things will be built naturally, probably out of order.
Luckily for me, I find myself REALLY funny. I make better jokes then ANYONE else. So I'm always having great conversations with people because I'm hilarious. I have such a good time in the conversations that I have that everyone involved in the conversation is also having a great time, if, by some freak of nature, they aren't they're excluded.
Routines/Stories: I didn't know PUAs had pre planned routines/stories until 'The Game' was released. I tended to steer clear of ASF, and stuck with sosuave.
WOW! What a GREAT idea! No sarcasm. Truly
I became much more conscious of my story telling. *This story I'm about to tell. Will it have a punch line? Will it have no ending? - leaving me to say, and yeah! That's it! Will it have a million different things which need explaining?*
Being conscious of these things saves me from telling bad stories which go nowhere. "I had an onion tied to my belt, because it was the fashion at the time. Gimmie 5 bees for a quarter you'd say... The important thing was I had an onion tied to my belt, we only had yellow onions because of the war.." You get my point.
Now, whenever I do tell a story, I am not only conscious of keeping it as entertaining as possible, I'm taking notes on how my audience reacted to it, as well as making a note that it can be used again, when appropriate.
Like me, most of you guys are probably thinking, I have no stories to tell! Where do I start?
Pay attention to the conversations you have with both friends, and strangers, you will naturally tell MANY stories every day. Some good, some not so good. Pay attention. Write down the ones which got a good response if that will help you.
Interests/Hobbies: sosuave focuses on these a lot. My god! They are SUPER important to being interesting. All my life I was trying to hide my interests as they weren't typical and mainstream. Everything from my taste in music, to what I do in my spare time was embarrassing! I hang out in very mainstream crowds, where people *like* the black eyed peas and desperate housewives. This is not me. Now when appropriate, I PROUDLY and ENTHUSIASTICALLY display my interests and hobbies. I've found that girls, who like to be lead, LOVE a guy who is different.
God! I remember in high school, I would wear nothing but the brands the cool kids were wearing, because if I wanted to be cool, I had to be like them... I was wrong. But it's another story. I'm sure we can all relate to it and all know it.
Closing: My favourite part. Things like "Do you want to kiss me?" are so damn corny! I seriously doubt if Mystery or Style or anyone who has kiss closed > 30 girls would use anything remotely similar.
I know how hard it was initially to kiss close. The butterflies are flying around in your stomach, and you've got 1 million 'what ifs'. What if she turns away? What if people see her turn away? What if I offend her? What if I ruin all this hard work that I've done? etc. etc.
Well, with experience and confidence I developed something which works.
As I go into each set fully expecting them to be attracted to me, if I wasn't blown out, I am still expecting my target to be fully attracted to me. I suppose I go a bit old school. Softly grab her face, and kiss her. Sometimes my target will block me. If she doesn't walk away at this point (none ever have) you can just plow right over it. Act as though nothing happened. Continue with a fun and positive vibe for 30 seconds. Rinse and repeat.
There is nothing revolutionary here. This is documented to help me with my game. And for me to read over in 1, 2, 3, years times and again remember how much I have evolved within the game.
To all the Newbies. Work on the mindset. You've been socialized into believing that HOT girls are better then you, better then me, better then everyone except the EXTREMELY wealthy, the famous or freakishly good looking guys.
To all the Keyboard Jockeys no amount of reading will ever give you the tools you need to succeed in the game. You MUST have field experience. Just 10 approaches will teach you more then 100 articles. With 100 approaches, you'd never need to read an article.
"The time is always right to do what is right." - Martin Luther King Jr.
three12.
I am breaking my game down into the main sections; Mindset, Opening, PUA method, Stories, Interests, Closing.
This site has given so much to me and lately I have grown to be totally over it. The number of keyboard jockeys grows every day, as does the number of newbies. There isn’t enough GOOD advice going around. This site has helped to change my life, I'm going to give back to it and help it to change yours.
Mindset: I owe a lot to this website for helping me develop a very solid mindset. Once upon a time, I believed that only good looking guys could have good looking girlfriends. I believed that I was about average looking. A 5. Therefore, I could have SOME HB5s. Maybe I'd be able to get a HB6 on a really good day. And if by chance I was able to grab a HB7 I should hold on for dear life.
This was compounded strongly by my friends, family, the media; basically every agent of socialization.
Over time, in my eyes, I grew to a 6, then a 7, and then it didn't matter.
My mindset had been completely reworked through other means of socialization; sosuave.com, personal experience, a couple of small scale PU sites, the Melbourne Lair, the Bristol Lair. I no longer see myself as a 5, 6, 7... Neither do I see myself as a 10. Or even a 12 as some guys suggest you should feel.
I see myself as attractive.
In my field, things are true, or false. 0 or 1. Power on or Power off.
Attractive or Unattractive.
There is nothing more, nothing less.
I can pull any girl who is attracted to me. I can spark attraction in every girl I come across. I believe this, due to experience. Reading WILL NOT ever make this belief congruent for you, the keyboard jockey.
Opening: I don't believe this is important. Far too much focus is placed on opening. I'd like to quote Juggler from his Seduction of Style Field report, as his words are so true.
"The first thing you say to a woman matters very little. Some guys tell me they can't think of anything or they need a really good line. I tell them they are thinking too much. You are not that important. I am not that important. We have never thought a thought so great that it needs to be wrapped with so much care. Give up your need for perfection. As far as opening lines go, a grunt or fart is sufficient."
Well, personally, I've never turned a fart into a pickup. But I let some lethal gas out. However, I have had some great responses walking past girls in a mall and 'blowing a raspberry' not sure if that is a universal action? - sticking out my tongue and making a farting noise.
Most of the time, I am not actively sarging. Cold approaching random girls. I am having my own fun. Doing my own thing.
I trained myself to hold eye contact. Whilst I am doing my own thing, having my own fun, girls WILL look at me, I'll hold this eye contact. We'll both smile, and then I'll approach. Normally with something cheesey like "Hmmm, You just turned 18. This is your first time at a club isn't it?" This works like a neg. normally I'll get a response like "No I'm X" then I'll bust on them. "Oh your X! WOW!"
But it's not important, no one will remember this.
Rapport/Comfort/Trust/DHVs etc: These things are all great! I'm sure. Because EVERYONE in this community tells me so. I don't doubt this. However, I'm not smart enough to think about all of this stuff whilst I'm running game. So I don't really have any method.
I'll basically fluff/vibe with the target and these things will be built naturally, probably out of order.
Luckily for me, I find myself REALLY funny. I make better jokes then ANYONE else. So I'm always having great conversations with people because I'm hilarious. I have such a good time in the conversations that I have that everyone involved in the conversation is also having a great time, if, by some freak of nature, they aren't they're excluded.
Routines/Stories: I didn't know PUAs had pre planned routines/stories until 'The Game' was released. I tended to steer clear of ASF, and stuck with sosuave.
WOW! What a GREAT idea! No sarcasm. Truly
I became much more conscious of my story telling. *This story I'm about to tell. Will it have a punch line? Will it have no ending? - leaving me to say, and yeah! That's it! Will it have a million different things which need explaining?*
Being conscious of these things saves me from telling bad stories which go nowhere. "I had an onion tied to my belt, because it was the fashion at the time. Gimmie 5 bees for a quarter you'd say... The important thing was I had an onion tied to my belt, we only had yellow onions because of the war.." You get my point.
Now, whenever I do tell a story, I am not only conscious of keeping it as entertaining as possible, I'm taking notes on how my audience reacted to it, as well as making a note that it can be used again, when appropriate.
Like me, most of you guys are probably thinking, I have no stories to tell! Where do I start?
Pay attention to the conversations you have with both friends, and strangers, you will naturally tell MANY stories every day. Some good, some not so good. Pay attention. Write down the ones which got a good response if that will help you.
Interests/Hobbies: sosuave focuses on these a lot. My god! They are SUPER important to being interesting. All my life I was trying to hide my interests as they weren't typical and mainstream. Everything from my taste in music, to what I do in my spare time was embarrassing! I hang out in very mainstream crowds, where people *like* the black eyed peas and desperate housewives. This is not me. Now when appropriate, I PROUDLY and ENTHUSIASTICALLY display my interests and hobbies. I've found that girls, who like to be lead, LOVE a guy who is different.
God! I remember in high school, I would wear nothing but the brands the cool kids were wearing, because if I wanted to be cool, I had to be like them... I was wrong. But it's another story. I'm sure we can all relate to it and all know it.
Closing: My favourite part. Things like "Do you want to kiss me?" are so damn corny! I seriously doubt if Mystery or Style or anyone who has kiss closed > 30 girls would use anything remotely similar.
I know how hard it was initially to kiss close. The butterflies are flying around in your stomach, and you've got 1 million 'what ifs'. What if she turns away? What if people see her turn away? What if I offend her? What if I ruin all this hard work that I've done? etc. etc.
Well, with experience and confidence I developed something which works.
As I go into each set fully expecting them to be attracted to me, if I wasn't blown out, I am still expecting my target to be fully attracted to me. I suppose I go a bit old school. Softly grab her face, and kiss her. Sometimes my target will block me. If she doesn't walk away at this point (none ever have) you can just plow right over it. Act as though nothing happened. Continue with a fun and positive vibe for 30 seconds. Rinse and repeat.
There is nothing revolutionary here. This is documented to help me with my game. And for me to read over in 1, 2, 3, years times and again remember how much I have evolved within the game.
To all the Newbies. Work on the mindset. You've been socialized into believing that HOT girls are better then you, better then me, better then everyone except the EXTREMELY wealthy, the famous or freakishly good looking guys.
To all the Keyboard Jockeys no amount of reading will ever give you the tools you need to succeed in the game. You MUST have field experience. Just 10 approaches will teach you more then 100 articles. With 100 approaches, you'd never need to read an article.
"The time is always right to do what is right." - Martin Luther King Jr.
three12.