Mantra
Don Juan
I am very much of the belief that our beliefs create our reality, our experience of the world. Therefore, if I for example consistently go around telling myself that I am a disaster at cold approaches, then that is what I will be. If I say to myself that I feel more and more abundance in my life, then that will also be my experience. Note, though, that there may well be a lag effect here. Things don't change overnight, but will gradually permeate your consciousness and world. To change your beliefs does however require a bit of self-analysis and work.
As to the question "to game or not to game?"....well that's a tricky one. If one is using for example a funny opener and a few playfull things that one has learnt, and seductive talk, in an interaction, then that's great. I think that we need to ask ourselves seriously though "how much am I trying to paper over low self-esteem with material?".
If the honest answer is "not at all" then keep following the path you are on and using what you've learnt. If the answer is "a lot!" then the best course of action is to take measures to fix your self-image, and inner game before trying to compensate with loads of outer routines etc.
There are books and courses in self esteem all over the the place, and doing some of the exercises Anthony Robbins talks about can also be a great help.
One thing is certain.....if you use loads of game but have no congruent sense of personal power under it, you will fall at the first hurdle, especially with well balanced, intelligent women. A scent of desperation will permeate your interactions.
Build your inner world, absorb and model great mythical heroes and inspirational figures, literature, art, get close to nature, create goals and plans to reach them, learn to meditate (a purely masculine activity, becoming "the witness", according to David Deida), cut down on porn and masturbation, challenge yourself....and watch your identity blossom. Your inner strength will then carry you forward and outer success will follow.
As you become stronger you will allow more and more of yourself to shine through in your interactions which gives you a glow and charisma which are very attractive.
Build you self-esteem and outstrip the field.....today is the day to start!
As to the question "to game or not to game?"....well that's a tricky one. If one is using for example a funny opener and a few playfull things that one has learnt, and seductive talk, in an interaction, then that's great. I think that we need to ask ourselves seriously though "how much am I trying to paper over low self-esteem with material?".
If the honest answer is "not at all" then keep following the path you are on and using what you've learnt. If the answer is "a lot!" then the best course of action is to take measures to fix your self-image, and inner game before trying to compensate with loads of outer routines etc.
There are books and courses in self esteem all over the the place, and doing some of the exercises Anthony Robbins talks about can also be a great help.
One thing is certain.....if you use loads of game but have no congruent sense of personal power under it, you will fall at the first hurdle, especially with well balanced, intelligent women. A scent of desperation will permeate your interactions.
Build your inner world, absorb and model great mythical heroes and inspirational figures, literature, art, get close to nature, create goals and plans to reach them, learn to meditate (a purely masculine activity, becoming "the witness", according to David Deida), cut down on porn and masturbation, challenge yourself....and watch your identity blossom. Your inner strength will then carry you forward and outer success will follow.
As you become stronger you will allow more and more of yourself to shine through in your interactions which gives you a glow and charisma which are very attractive.
Build you self-esteem and outstrip the field.....today is the day to start!
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