The FRIENDZONE is a MYTH

[Love Ninja]

Yes, that's exactly what I said.

After spending the week questioning about 10 of my male friends, I assert that there is no less chance of entering into a romantic relationship with a girl who is your friend than there is with any girl you just met.

It just seems that way because we tend to get fixated on ones that are already our friends, if we develop feelings.

And, on the contrary, in many cases, it was easier to develop rapport and trust, AND passion with woman they'd been involved with as friends. It is actually EASIER to ignite passion with a friend then with a stranger!

If a man is just "looking to hook-up" then the Friendzone is no place to look... But the only real risk in querying a friend - is the risk.

And Fvck it! NOTHING GROWS WITHOUT RISK!

That whole "Things will have changed between us" line is complete BS and only valid if you act like a complete lame loser afterward and think you can make her feel sorry into liking you... Otherwise, be man, tell her it's "awesome, and you're not sorry you approached her." Laugh it off and tell her, "It's too bad I make a better lover than a friend."

That line worked for me... and a month later she and I are dating.

Hell, you might actually get an awesome girl you can hang with and have sex with out of it! Risk it!

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I've turned friends to friends with benefits. They weren't long time friends. When, I was in high school I was a pot head. So, I would meet chicks who also smoked. What turned into smoking buddys turned into fvck buddies.

Some of you may think its cause I had weed and they only fvcked me for weed. But, thats not the case. They would smoke me out! So, I got pvssy and free weed!! :crackup:

 

[Bawb14]

High five I.A.F.Y.B i'm there right now.

 

[DJDamage]

FRIENDZONE is only a myth if you have game. If you don't then its very much a scary reality in which their is no way out.

 

[Furyguy]

I think there's a difference between Friendzone and Friends. Friendzone is a word that inherently has negative connotations.

The point of the Friendzone is that you've already shown her your intentions and been shot down. Alternatively, you like her but have failed to show her this during your window of opportunity. In any case, you've turned her off completely from the idea of ever going anywhere with you.

If you are a friends with a girl you feel nothing for, that really isn't the same as being put into the Friendzone.

I think the point is,
you want her = friendzone
you don't give a **** = friends.

And yes, girls sometimes do develop attraction for their friends, but you're a moron if you want to waste your time chasing after them.

 

[slaog]

Alot of people think it's like a black hole where you fall into and it's impossible to get out but thats not true.

 

[Love Ninja]

And yes, girls sometimes do develop attraction for their friends, but you're a moron if you want to waste your time chasing after them.

I think that's true of ANY woman.

No chasing ... but if feelings come up, it's completely lame to not 'grab the bull by the horns'.

 

[Sneaky_Beta]

yea dude i got ljbf'd by a lot of hoes and still ended up f-closing them. just because she says or feels that it would never go further than friends doesn't mean it will stay that way. a girls mind is like the weather.

 

[WC2]

I think there's a difference between Friendzone and Friends. Friendzone is a word that inherently has negative connotations.

The point of the Friendzone is that you've already shown her your intentions and been shot down. Alternatively, you like her but have failed to show her this during your window of opportunity. In any case, you've turned her off completely from the idea of ever going anywhere with you.

If you are a friends with a girl you feel nothing for, that really isn't the same as being put into the Friendzone.

I think the point is,
you want her = friendzone
you don't give a **** = friends.

And yes, girls sometimes do develop attraction for their friends, but you're a moron if you want to waste your time chasing after them.

Great response.

Two totally different things.

For a real life example :

I am friends with my friend's sister. She wants to bone me (unfortunately). Yes, I would like to bone her. Have I made an desperate attempts to and been shutdown? Hell no. All she is is a piece of ass to me and that isn't hard to come by.

Now, let's say I was friends with a gal and I made an effort at friendship in hopes of getting her into the sack. NOW I have successfully moved into the Friendzone.

It's all in how your mind frames the situation and how you go about it. Remember, the one who wants more is always the most open to being hurt. This is why the one who wants less will most often make the other a friend.

 

[slaog]

I think there's a difference between Friendzone and Friends. Friendzone is a word that inherently has negative connotations.

The point of the Friendzone is that you've already shown her your intentions and been shot down. Alternatively, you like her but have failed to show her this during your window of opportunity. In any case, you've turned her off completely from the idea of ever going anywhere with you.

If you are a friends with a girl you feel nothing for, that really isn't the same as being put into the Friendzone.

I think the point is,
you want her = friendzone
you don't give a **** = friends.

And yes, girls sometimes do develop attraction for their friends, but you're a moron if you want to waste your time chasing after them.

The prize/high value mentality. Be high value and they'll be attracted to you but chase them and make them the prize and they'll get turned off.

Even if you are friendzoned you can break out of it over time.

 

[02hero]

I can't remember where I heard this, but "women are not your friends, they are the enemy, that's why we want to **** them". Many a true word said in jest.....