The Friend Zone Sucks

[elitechild]

Yes, the title says it all. For about 2 years now, I have known this girl who I have become pretty good friends with. At first, I wasn't really into her. We occasionally saw each other at work and would say hi and what not. But over last summer, we really began to talk and get to know each other. It came to a point where we would be working for 5-8 hours a day together and would talk the whole time lol...We often breaked together (still do) and even leave together at night. One day at work we finally exchanged numbers and began to text each other pretty frequently throughout the day. I really thought this was the one, I finally thought just maybe I can be her man. Well, I was wrong. Turned out she has a boyfriend...but I have fallen in love with her, sadly. I fell really hard for her...I never really felt this way before about a girl. I just feel so happy when I'm around her and I couldn't imagine life without her. I say to myself "keep being friends with her, maybe it will all work out if she breaks up with her boyfriend". I really don't know what to do anymore..I mean, she's just a beautiful person and I'm afraid I'll never meet someone like her again. I want to tell her how I feel, I want to tell her I'll always be there for you, I want to hold her in my arms and let her know how much I love her, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. Some of my friends say tell her or you'll always think "what if?" some say don't risk your friendship. What should I do?

 

[JDA70]

Best thing you can do is start looking for another girl.
Don't be afraid you won't meet someone as good as her.
In fact there are tons of girls out there.

 

[elitechild]

Thanks, but do you have any tips on how to deal with her? I mean, I don't wanna ignore her, but I feel that's the only way.

 

[horaholic]

Click that there link on the bottom of the page that says "DJ BIBLE."

Now read it. I suggest starting with Pooks 15 laws of attraction. And dont post again, till you understand a little more.

As for the chick. Mack on her friends. If she doesnt help you get some, she's not your real friend now is she?

Edit: I meant Fifteen lessons, by Pook.

 

[Evzone]

I say to myself "keep being friends with her, maybe it will all work out if she breaks up with her boyfriend". I really don't know what to do anymore..I mean, she's just a beautiful person and I'm afraid I'll never meet someone like her again. I want to tell her how I feel, I want to tell her I'll always be there for you, I want to hold her in my arms and let her know how much I love her

...you have much to learn. Fortunately you are in the right place. Do what horaholic said; read the DJ Bible. You really got to adjust your whole mindset here.

I'll just give you a no-BS assessment about this case: the girl is 99.999% likely not in your reach at the moment, and probably for quite some time. Honestly you'll just have to accept that and move on. You have what the DJ Bible terms oneitis, meaning you are infatuated with one girl in particular, and really, you haven't even on a date or anything sexual with her.

 

[SharinganUser]

Read the DJ Bible at the bottom. Move on and find other women.

 

[Allurre]

This aint the end of the world bro. Here's what you can do now. Search elsewhere for another girl, there are TONS out there. Wait til she breaks up, and maybe you can have another shot at her.

Your life shouldn't be centered on this one particular girl.

Happy new years too!

 

[Lexington]

It's not what you want to hear, but there's probably very little chance you can make it work with her.

What's the guarantee that it won't work out with her boyfriend? Their relationship might last years. She might get married to the guy.

Go out and pursue other women. Maybe she'll get jealous (but don't count on it). Don't pursue these women because you want to make her jealous. You have to realize that there are billions of women on the planet and it is possible for you to have a fulfilling relationship with literally hundreds of millions of them.

Don't fixate on one girl, especially one who is already in a relationship and who doesn't even view you as boyfriend material.

 

[Metacomet]

Don't sweat it bud. We all see 'those' girls come and go.

Girls who you wish you could be around and want to call your own... they either belong to someone else or aren't down for a relationship.

No matter how perfect they seem, you will be amazed to see that another one will roll around. Trust me. Just be careful not to 'fall in love' so easily...

I know it happens.

The truth is a good handful of the female population has 'that' quality. Spend enough time around them and their voice will grow on you... their presence gets you high... every man knows this feeling. But she's not your girlfriend. And you CAN FIND this with other girls. With some girls, the attraction will be instant... none of this 'at first we were just friends' bull****.

Move on bro.