"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Flake Detector

ChrizZ

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Hi,

Don´t you hate it when you get all excited for a date, but then suddenly your cell phone rings and the girl says:"Oh, I´m sorry. I can´t come... bla...bla...bla."

Well, here his a solution to prevent girls from flaking. I got his tip from my homie David Deangelo.

When you talk to a girl and ask her out on a date and she agrees say the following things.

"Look, I just want to ask you a quick question. I had some bad experiences with girls that flaked on me in the past and I just wanted to ask you how likely is it that you´re gonna show up? On a scale from 1 to 10?"

Now, if she says something like: "Oh, don´t worry. I´ll definately show up!",
she is not likely to flake on you and her interest level is high.

However if she says something like: "Oh, probably like an 8",
she is likely to flake on you.
If she says that then you respond: "Listen, I don´t tolerate second class behaviour from anyone, not even myself. So forget about it and call ME when you have time."

This shows a lot of confidence, not being needy, DHV, and that you are in control of the situation.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bonhomme

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Something rubs me the wrong way about mentioning straight away that women tend to flake :/. Not unlike the old saying: "An excuse that precedes an accusation is as good as a confession."

My approach is to invite my date to something I would want to do going solo anyway. Then if she doesn't show up, it's just her loss. The right mindset follows naturally.
 

edmond

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ChrizZ said:
Hi,

Don´t you hate it when you get all excited for a date, but then suddenly your cell phone rings and the girl says:"Oh, I´m sorry. I can´t come... bla...bla...bla."

Well, here his a solution to prevent girls from flaking. I got his tip from my homie David Deangelo.

When you talk to a girl and ask her out on a date and she agrees say the following things.

"Look, I just want to ask you a quick question. I had some bad experiences with girls that flaked on me in the past and I just wanted to ask you how likely is it that you´re gonna show up? On a scale from 1 to 10?"

Now, if she says something like: "Oh, don´t worry. I´ll definately show up!",
she is not likely to flake on you and her interest level is high.

However if she says something like: "Oh, probably like an 8",
she is likely to flake on you.
If she says that then you respond: "Listen, I don´t tolerate second class behaviour from anyone, not even myself. So forget about it and call ME when you have time."

This shows a lot of confidence, not being needy, DHV, and that you are in control of the situation.
David Deangelo is full of sh*t. If she flakes, so what? Just move on.
 

ChrizZ

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edmond said:
David Deangelo is full of sh*t. If she flakes, so what? Just move on.
so you would waste your time and money for nothing when you actually could have been on a date with a chick that would have shown up?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hey so flaking happens.
I refuse to invest that much time and energy heading off potential flakes. If she flakes the first time, you just move on and absolutely do not give her a chance to flake on you a second time.

I'm paraphrasing very rougly here, but the old saying goes:

fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me
 

edmond

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ChrizZ said:
so you would waste your time and money for nothing when you actually could have been on a date with a chick that would have shown up?
Hi Chriz Z,
I do not think that it is a waste of time or money to go out with a girl that you like, but if she does not turn up, I just get on with my life.
My gym, swim and mountain bike sessions are more important than spending my time wondering why, she was not there. Her loss, not mine.
Life is too short.
 

DJF or John

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Hey Chris, I thought you read my post?

"so you would waste your time and money for nothing when you actually could have been on a date with a chick that would have shown up?"

First off, you didn't read my post. Why are you going on dates with chicks you haven't screwed? Why are you even spending time with a chick that you haven't even played foreplay phone sex with?

FVCK DATES. Dates are for women that you ahve been fvcking and that you BOTH have things in common.

Chris for the life of me, will you just get laid dude? What's all this spending time and money shyt? What the fvck?

Dates don't get you pvssy, your sexual state, man-ness, all that shyt I said in that post gets you pvssy.

Lol, I mean I know you are going to do what you want. But it's more fun to make the entire engagement foreplay-sex based, when you get her number, get her on the phone, and eventually get her to go into phone sex with you. This is FOREPLAY, women LOVVVEE foreplay. Dude, they fvcking NEED foreplay, in most cases, they need foreplay more than the dyck itself.

You guys keep fvcking up the entire thing. You keep fvcking this entire thing up for women. Why can't you just go back and be fvcking men again? All this other bullshyt, the theories, the dates, the candy/flowers, dude fvcking stop all this shyt and fvck these chicks please!

If you don't, I will! The only problem is that I only have one dyck, I could use some help around here.
 
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