The FIVE greatest MISCONCEPTIONS about WOMEN. MUST READ.

[blayde]

These misconceptions/illusions have caused untold blood sweat and tears to me. I hope they will help you avoid some pain. BTW not ALL women fall into these categories but MOST do.

MISCONCEPTION #:

1. WOMEN ARE MORE ROMANTIC THAN GUYS. WRONG. Women are PRAGMATISTS. They appear to be romantic because they like peripheral "touchy feely" mementos of affection. But you need to know they they are really demanding material PROOF of your feelings. This is anything but romantic. More evidence:
A. Men assume women are romantic because they are romantic themselves.
B. No man would ever marry for money. Many women do.

2. WOMEN ARE PRIMARILY LOOKING FOR A SOULMATE. Actually, women are looking for a dominant, masculine, intrigueing, unpredictable, active, strong, prosperous, normal, funny, man. They soulmate equation comes into play AFTER the other stuff but even then they don't want a completely transparent and emotionally available guy because they won't consider it masculine.
A. Women have girlfriends to meet their emotional needs.

3. WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR AN EQUAL PARTNER. This is tricky. Actually, they seem to want the partner to SAY she's equal but demonstrate more physical and emotional strength.
A. While you're agreeing she's your equal(in ability) you can be sure she has no intention of changing a flat tire.

4. WOMEN NEED MEN MORE THAN MEN NEED WOMEN. Women can live alone unmarried easier than men because of:
A. A more extensive social support system
Studies have shown that divorced males are much less happy than divorced females.

5. WOMEN ARE LOOKING FIRST FOR A NICE GUY WHO CAP MAKE THEM LAUGH. PERSONALITY BEFORE LOOKS. Looks are becoming more and more important to women.
A. The reason for this misconception is because it 's virtually splashed about on every magazine cover "POLL". "I just want a guy who can make me laugh". "I really want a nice guy". These polls however are:
A. Simply an incomplete story. What a woman means is that if she finds a guy who is masculine, prosperous, handsome, then a sense of humor is great frosting on the cake. But nice and funny are simply not enough to capture her attention.

 

[NeverFear]

Women are more emotional than romantic

women need drama and chase.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by blayde
These misconceptions/illusions have caused untold blood sweat and tears to me. I hope they will help you avoid some pain. BTW not ALL women fall into these categories but MOST do.

MISCONCEPTION #:

3. WOMEN ARE LOOKING FOR AN EQUAL PARTNER. This is tricky. Actually, they seem to want the partner to SAY she's equal but demonstrate more physical and emotional strength.
A. While you're agreeing she's your equal(in ability) you can be sure she has no intention of changing a flat tire.

While reading this I was nodding to myself in agreement to some degree but #3 made jump up and do a back-flip. This misconception is a perfect example of women can say whatever they want, the only thing that really matters is their actions.

Good post!

 

[icepick]

Originally posted by blayde
4. WOMEN NEED MEN MORE THAN MEN NEED WOMEN. Women can live alone unmarried easier than men because of:
A. A more extensive social support system
Studies have shown that divorced males are much less happy than divorced females.

Why are these divorced men less happy than thier ex-wifes?

1. Umm, they just got raped in court for all of thier money.

2. They lost thier kids.

3. They probably are fat and bald.

4. They realized now that they waisted thier youth on a woman that would stab them in the back later on in life.

Why should the woman be mad? She has child support and kids; she has her own family. Specially provided for her by...

Dum-da-dum...

THE GOVERNMENT!

She still needs a man (or a group of men with badges, suits, ties, etc.) to provide for her family. Now, she is in the time of her life where she is past her sexy/fertile years and has to focus on raising children.

Women that don't need men aren't exactly the women that you want. The best women are young, and without children. They need a guy to help her create the child (of course) and raise the child (unless she has a bunch of free cash to provide for both the babys stuff and her clothes/car/nice house/makeup/etc., etc.)

A child is just another burden on a guy. Someone else to pay for. Sure, many men may want children (just like many women want sex) but they don't NEED children.

Women start to go completely CRAZY if they reach 35-40 or so and never have kids. Take a look at some "old maids", usually they get stranger and stranger. Having kids does something to a girl. This website can help us change from boys to men; having kids helps girls change into women.

Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that women are worthless and men are the pillar of life, but I think both sexes need each other equally. Men need women to "call them to greatness" and teach them to fully grow into all of thier talents, and women need men to make them feel like they are a part of something, a needed part of the world, and finally, they both need each other to make a child and climb another stair of immortality.

 

[George Gordon]

Originally posted by blayde
2. WOMEN ARE PRIMARILY LOOKING FOR A SOULMATE.
Actually, women are looking for a dominant, masculine, intrigueing, unpredictable, active, strong, prosperous, normal, funny, man. The soulmate equation comes into play AFTER the other stuff but even then they don't want a completely transparent and emotionally available guy because they won't consider it masculine.

Touche.

The prominent paradigm shift I experienced when I first found this site was that my current perceptions on women and attraction seemed to be completely the OPPOSITE of the way things really are in nature. Everything was BACKWARDS.

You started with the end, with the result. When you were an AFC, you went on a first date as if you were already in love. You would converse as if you were already married with such intimacy and openness. In your mind, after a very short time, you were SOULMATES. In hers, you were a desperate guy she pitied. I don't know if this was you, but it sure was me 2 years ago.

Because most men are raised to be Nice Guys, they don't understand the ODYSSEY. The work. The PASSION! They expect results immediately, without acting. They've been lied to: if you just wait patiently, you'll get what you want. With women, and in life. Afterall, Nice Guys get married, and, sometimes, decent trades. But they understand neither. They focus on having, not getting.

Yet a person can't fully UNDERSTAND the path without taking, first, the odyssey; the destination isn't as VALUABLE as the adventures, the skills, the experience for cities and castles fall.

!GEORGE GORDON!

 

[DYDevotee]

This thread is one giant trainwreck

A few things I found inconsistent, wait, flat out wrong;

-women are looking for a soulmate, however, a rough and tumble hardass with a sensitive underside can be a soulmate, an excellent complement to a woman who will want to "figure him out" or "fix" him.

-most desirable women will choose an excellent personality and average lifestyle over money. Money is a complement to a personality.

-most men don't marry women for money because men typically make more money than women....Duh.

-Divorced women tend to be happier than their male counterparts because typically the woman ends a bad relationship, most likely she's enjoying being freed from some needy dumb-ass.


In conclusion, most of this is crap, however, number 3 seems fairly acceptable. If you disagree with me you're probably one of those people who just agrees with everything and doesn't think things through. But it's ok, noone's perfect, I forgive you.