"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The First Week

Desdinova

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So, I figured I'd let you all know how I'm doing after almost a week since I split with my LTR.

(Des! We really give a 5hit! Please tell us! We're dying to know if you're all broken hearted and fvcked up!)

Okay then...

I was out of town during the whole week on business. I couldn't have picked a better time to split. I was so fvcking busy the whole week, I didn't have time to think about missing her (and I didnt!) I worked some crazy overtime, making extra cash, and I could've sworn that 60% of the women there have NEVER seen a man before. I got some mad eye contact, smiles, and even flirting from the women out there. I've never seen such positive initiation from women in my life. Maybe I should move there :)

I've confirmed another date with the 21 year old for tomorrow eve.

I've also started working on turning one of the previous girls I've dated into a fvck buddy. We've been sending sexy and filthy messages back and forth on BBM all day. She's decent looking, fantastic in bed, but lousy relationship material. She's also got the sexiest legs and the most firm breasts I've ever laid my hands on.

Life is good :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dear Des,
Good,you are getting a handle on things....Now don't Fvuck up again and let them move in....Never!!!!
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Des,
Good,you are getting a handle on things....Now don't Fvuck up again and let them move in....Never!!!!
I'm gonna +1 this for emphasis.
 

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Good on You Des,
I've always affirmed the best medecine for a breakup is to keep yourself very active. Also spinning some new plates is a good thing. What your experiencing with the HIL from new women in your surroundings is their innate sense in detecting DHV. You dumped your ex, you didn't need her. They sense that vibe. I don't know how they do it, but they do. Whether its how you carry yourself, interact with others, your indifference, etc.
Back in February I dumped a LTR. I was on a flight to Europe a couple days later for a 2 week project. It was absolutley the best thing I could have done at the time. I was in a new environment, surrounded by lots of beautiful women, busy with work. It was perfect. The funny thing is today, I'm so busy with a work project and have been for months that if a chick isn't totally what I'm about I don't even waste my time playing with it. Sure there's a certain level of effort that you need to spin a new plate, but I truly haven't even felt the urge to do so. I'd rather work on my own future than spend time, $, and effort chasing tail right now. Let them chase me I say.

Good field report Des, keep working on your own interests. The 21 YO sounds like a nice distraction. If you can spin the FB with limited effort, then do so~
KC
 

Desdinova

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Des,
Good,you are getting a handle on things....Now don't Fvuck up again and let them move in....Never!!!!
Why the hell would I do that? I haven't lived with a woman since I got rid of my ex-wife. I don't plan on living with another woman again.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dear DES,
Oops!!!
 
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