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The First Phone call !?

Pr0lab

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What should be up on the convirsation ?!
should I show my self as less interested in her, so she won't feel like I needy ?

suggestions ?
 

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When you first start dating someone the phone shouldn't be used as a getting to know the other person through meaningful conversation tool, but a setting up a time where you meet face to face to have said meaningful conversation tool. Keep it brief and to the point. Obviously you'll have to talk for like 5 minutes or so...keep it light and make her laugh. And showing interest doesn't make you seem needy...just don't act all creepy and stalkerish.
 

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dude u just contradicted yourself..........phone shouldn't be used for then at the end U said make her laugh, keep it light, avoid stalkerish........DUDE THATS MEANINGFUL CONVERSATION

Calling the chic the first time-primary object is to make the date. Seconday objective is to build trust, rapport, connection.

Follow up calls are for time,location, re-enforcing the anchor, gravitating towards a realtionship.

So how do u do that..........well depending on HOW you extracted the number (online, in person, in a club or durring the day) Several differnt openers to use.

ONLINE DIGIT EXTRACTIONS-i like to incorporate a lil nic name, tease her about her profile, something she said, etc in an online converation. HEY MAN HATER, HELLO BARBIE WANNABE.........something U can use as a recall tactic.

TEXT-if its her cell #-send a quick tease........hey stop screening your calls and pick up. Most women rarely answer unknown callers but they all read the text messages.

INFIELD EXTRACTIONS-send a text, assume its them answering and do some light banter then say the reason I am calling is.........wanting a token date with you, which day works best friday or saturday, etc, etc.

VOICEMAIL-yup better be prepared almost 50% let their phone goto voicemail. So have a plan on what u want to convey..........THIS IS WHERE HUMOR IS INJECTED, FORGET HEY ITS JIMBO 555-1212 CALL ME BACK...........that rarely cuts it, instead give 'em a reason to call U back.

HERES A FEW.........FROM MY BOOK.........

-Hello, it’s me……..I am looking for my future ex-wife, are you screening your calls already? Well the reason I am calling is for our token first date, you know so we can see if there is any chemistry……..then we can head to Vegas, but I gotta see if you are beautiful on the inside as well first. I will call you at 7:30 later tonight, is first class ok.

-Oh my Gosh, Jules you will never guess who I had lunch with today………..hint he went to school with you in 3rd grade, call me back.

-Well I forgot to ask you something very important, this is Maurice, call me back at (insert her number) or at my work tomorrow at 555-1212. It has to do with your …………..click (hang up).

-Congratulations you just won a bazillion dollars for being the cutest girl on the Net, now U gotta call back so we can get the correct spelling of your name and we will quickly send your check out to you. This is a time sensitive offer and expires really really soon. To collect your 1 bazillion dollars call 555-1212…….your representative (your name) will be standing by.

-Hey Cheryl, this is your future ex-boyfriend…….It’s extremely UNIMPORTANT that you call back right away.

-Sexy Suzie, this is MJ…..first let me compliment you on how you tried hitting on me recently. That took a lots of guts, and is very unusual for a lady to do………fortunately for you I adore assertive women You got me mildly interested so call me back and we can talk about flirting 101.

u CAN MAKE YOUR OWN UP BUT U GET THE IDEA.

Now if she calls back and U are away from your phone U gotta have a cool interesting outgoing voice message so that she will want to leave a message........
 HAVING A CLEVER/INTERESTING VOICEMAIL ANNOUNCEMENT CAN INCREASE YOUR CALL-BACKS.

 BE SURE TO MAKE IT CLEAR, CONCISE, AND FUNNY, NOT TOO SERIOUS.

 SAYING “you reached 555-1212, leave a message….” Does virtually nothing for the person calling, they may even opt out to not leave a number/message at all.

 Speak slow (not rushed) smoothly and in a great tone (smile as you speak).

 Listen to it yourself and adjust accordingly (not all messages will appeal to all.

 Be sure to change when career searching

 Remind the caller of who they’re calling to avoid wrong numbers, to leave their info & best time to reach them.

OK WHAT ABOUT IF SHE IS SCREENIGN HER CALLS............ah good question

Just because you get their voicemail doesn’t always mean they are screening their calls. If they turn off their cell phones, it usually goes right to voicemail……again there are a slew of legitimate reasons why people are unavailable at any given moment, so don’t jump to conclusions. See thats where the text first comes into play.......U can also email or IM her to answer her phone.

Hope this helps
 
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