"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Fingz Tour 2005

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Julian
Yo check out The 5th Element in Minneapolis. Owned by one of the dudes from Atmosphere. Its like a record/hiphop music store. They carry underground sh1t.
Speaking of Minneapolis, check out the club First Avenue http://www.first-avenue.com/index.htm (yeah, it's the one from Purple Rain). They've had new DJ night and CD release parties. Try emailing this guy for more info.

[email protected]

I think he works with special events.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hey Fingz!

Are you still doing your tour thing? Cause if you are, I know some people here in Brazil!
 

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i live down here in the panhandle of florida near destin which has a huge nightlife and club scene. We have nationally known artists performing nearly every week down here and i have a great connection with the radio station because my buddy works on the air and he can usually get me free tickets to all the shows so if you are ever down this way i might be able to help you out.
 
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you got a Myspace? that helps out.

I'll definately email you, I'm hellbent on pursuing a career in music and I really need to make some contacts and networks within the industry to get me surrounded by people who are actually hard working artists and not just in it for some other dumb founded purpose.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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