Serenity
Moderator
It seems to me that some people get the idea that they should guard themselves against women. Some people get the idea that you should just be nice. There is no clear line. Like some of you I have been seriously hurt, stepped on, anxious, depressed, low self-esteem and having needy AFC behavior. It takes tremendous amounts of self-discipline to fix a sinking ship.
Women want a man of value, and a man has no value if he doesn't provide any. I'm if course talking about emotional value. Some people think dropping a woman will display value as you don't tolerate sh!t. This is correct, but only part of the picture. Actually doing something they appreciate just because is a true display of value.
This is where it gets difficult for some. What if they take advantage of you? This is why it's important to be aware of their behaviors. Having a skeptical and closed off attitude won't help you though. It's far better to assume it's all good until there's any red flags. Any kind of fear will ultimately ruin it.
There is no such thing as a simple solution though, ultimately we have to figure it out on our own. You won't be successful before you stop safing it, you will have to risk. Possibly you have to risk everything to see how wrong you were.
In the end I had no choice but to accept the risks and continue in spite of it. I had no choice because everything I thought I knew I crushed to pieces. Besides life gets a whole lot more interesting with a few twists and turns. It provides valuable lessons on building resilience.
Women want a man of value, and a man has no value if he doesn't provide any. I'm if course talking about emotional value. Some people think dropping a woman will display value as you don't tolerate sh!t. This is correct, but only part of the picture. Actually doing something they appreciate just because is a true display of value.
This is where it gets difficult for some. What if they take advantage of you? This is why it's important to be aware of their behaviors. Having a skeptical and closed off attitude won't help you though. It's far better to assume it's all good until there's any red flags. Any kind of fear will ultimately ruin it.
There is no such thing as a simple solution though, ultimately we have to figure it out on our own. You won't be successful before you stop safing it, you will have to risk. Possibly you have to risk everything to see how wrong you were.
In the end I had no choice but to accept the risks and continue in spite of it. I had no choice because everything I thought I knew I crushed to pieces. Besides life gets a whole lot more interesting with a few twists and turns. It provides valuable lessons on building resilience.
