"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Feminization of males

aussiegoat55

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I was reading up on some articles about real men, masculinity, and the feminization of men and stumbled upon this upsetting perspective of a married man:

[[ was married 5 years ago to a women who was raised to believe that women were the dominant partner in a relationship. I am deeply in love with my wife and in our 2 year engagement, she slowly led me to the submission we practice today. Today, I hold a professional position in a large company and earn a substantial salary. This has allowed my wife the freedom to not work outside of the home. She manages our money, our home, our entertainment and definitely our sexual activities. I am rewarded or punished for my activities and the completion of goals and objectives which we establish through dialogue. The rewards might be an orgasm, a special event like a fishing trip, or an evening of romantic love making, for example. Punishment will include orgasm denial and chasity devices, corporal punishment and denial of special events. About a year ago, my wife began the a process of feminizing me and now, in our home, I am expected to meet her approval by wearing panties and hose, and light makeup. Every few weeks we go to a spa and I am waxed from the neck down much to the delight of my waxers and my wife. I believe I am a better partner, husband and lover to my wife as a result of her control. She is the woman of my dreams, my fantasies and my reality.]]
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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:eek: :nono: :down:
I was looking for a barf emoticon but couldn't find one.
Reading stuff like that sickens me, and makes me want to kill myself for being a part of the human race.
 
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Haha, that was a joke!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
Haha, that was a joke!
I figured it might have been,
but I have also heard some stories like that in the newspapers. Then again I live close to NYC
 
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Actually, this is the norm in America, except this part...

I am expected to meet her approval by wearing panties and hose, and light makeup.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Last Man Standing said:
Actually, this is the norm in America, except this part...

I am expected to meet her approval by wearing panties and hose, and light makeup.
HA I was just thinking that actually. Pretty disturbing but true
 

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The perfection of slavery comes when you believe it's freedom made by your own choosing.
 

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just like....holy sh1t....
turn your balls in now. Please tell me this is all a joke, it scares me enough to never be like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Holy flying Belinda!

All the hair on my body stood straight up reading that, and now I can't get them down!:mad:
 

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Some guys like that "Serving the Mistress" kind of thing! There are women who sit at the feet of their "Master" and await his orders too. Slave/Master relationships are not as rare as you think they are.
 

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In retrospect its funny to me how such battles are won/lost by inches and before you know it, your 50 miles from where you wanted to be...

My last relationship, I originally started with my ex saying she could not move in with me until I knew/saw that she was stable on her own with her own income/place to live because the last thing I wanted was a dependant..

Well a year and a half later of trying to help her grow as a person physically emotionally and financially.. showing her support and compromiseing my own rules, values, & needs to help make more of her.. Fast forward a year and a half and shes now living with me (I'm paying for just about everything because she can't hold down a job) and one of the last straws that I remember is when I found myself one day at the point where she was telling me what I could and what I couldn't put on my own walls in my new condo ( she decided was/wasn't up to 'her' taste) and I let her at the time because I allowed myself to slowly become brainwashed.. Too many compromises.. too many times I gave in thinking "you have to pick your battles" while I wasn't true to myself. That relationship ended shortly after (she moved out June of this year).

I was amazed when she left how she was so apathetic.. and it was clear she didn't give a sh1t because she was done with me. lol I realized I was her expired meal ticket. (Funny.. she replaced me in less then 2 months with 'her soul mate' on her myspace page too. Now that was a realization and a half. lol)

She left and I felt like Mel Gibson's character in braveheart.. *yelling* FREEDOM!!!!!!!!
lol

I realize in hidsight I comitted the classic mistake. One should NEVER 'compromise' their own needs in a relationship. Never..

Vilar touches on this classic male error in her book "manipulated man". Interesting book thus far. Some things in there I disagree with but their is also a lot of gold in that book as well.
 

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While letting a woman lead in the relationship might sound exciting to some men, I suggest you never let it get to that.

Through experience, I've noticed that in every relationship where the woman was the "boss" it ended with her becoming bored, losing respect and eventually leaving the guy.

I'm not saying the man has to always lead, but he should the majority of the time. Even if the relationship is 50/50 it seems that doesnt seem to work either.

In my opinion, women think men should lead, even if they say something different. Pyschologically, most women want to feel like they can depend on the guy to be a man, and they tend to be happier in these types of relationships.
 

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aussie,

your situation is quite common. IN fact, "normal" today.

Western society culture's fruition is utterly bombarbed with feministic, anti-men, metrosexualized, "equal partners" garbage.

Unfortunately, even women who dont label themselves as feminist have adopted most of the ways of thinking of a radical feminist.

The way your wife thinks, its perfectly fine to "control" you in this manner. The fact that you have let her, has only reinforced it.

As far as suggestions, its difficult because if you "make waves" then she can conclude (legally) that you are being "aggressive" and therefore, you're being a controlling man with "anger issues".

This is all propaganda of course, nevertheless, most people would swallow it. You cannot win today as a man.

As a practical matter, the first thing to do is to become masculine YOURSELF. Start lifting weights, being independent, and masculine. Dress masculine, talk masculine.

As you transform, you can begin to assert yourself.

I have no other advice, for the simple reason than your wife can "decide" to ex you for any reason she chooses whatsoever, and keep your kids, your house, your car, and your income.

Think everything through carefully.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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^ It's an excerpt from a blog, not my own life. I'm not married and would never be in a marriage such as that.
 
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