Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The fear of losing you...

SandHawk

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My main plate at the moment is completely in love with me, and show cases this every waking moment by texting me, camming with me(including masturbating on cam for me) and is in a constant state of arousal around me. We literally f*ck like rabbits, up to 5 times a day, in sessions that last between 1 and 3 hours. Last sunday our day was: Wake up -> have sex -> have breakfast -> have sex -> Take shower -> have sex -> have sex -> go for dinner.

All in all, it's going pretty good, and she's a great candidate for an LTR. However, she appears to be insanely scared of losing me. I've showcased my "I'm not afraid to walk away" on previous girls in the past, and she witnessed one of them, leaving the girl devastated. She adores me, and she loves being dominated by me.

Do I keep her (unwarranted) fear alive by not responding to it and let it sit/breed? Or do I attempt to comfort her and talk it out of her head? A certain amount of fear is healthy in my opinion as it keeps the spark alive, keeps the mystery. But too much probably kills it.

Any thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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todays_news

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Man, I would love to live in amsterdam. Visited it in the summer, such a great city. So clean and the people are so nice it seems.

In my next relationship, which seems far off I would like to do as you have done. Maybe reassure her from time to time. Just dont get whipped and spend all your time with her, but the odd nice gesture doesnt hurt. Just not too often, as it becomes boring.

I also intend to follow the 2/3 rule. whereby for every three nice gestures from her, it earns her two from me. e.g.with three displays of affection from her, you respond with two. e.g. 2 three i love you's = 2 similar things from you in the future.

Then stop at two, as to not become to available and predictable. Just a thought. On reflection of my past relationship, if I had stuck to those rules then things would have been far different.

Just a thought.
 

eaglez1177

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SandHawk said:
My main plate at the moment is completely in love with me, and show cases this every waking moment by texting me, camming with me(including masturbating on cam for me) and is in a constant state of arousal around me. We literally f*ck like rabbits, up to 5 times a day, in sessions that last between 1 and 3 hours. Last sunday our day was: Wake up -> have sex -> have breakfast -> have sex -> Take shower -> have sex -> have sex -> go for dinner.

All in all, it's going pretty good, and she's a great candidate for an LTR. However, she appears to be insanely scared of losing me. I've showcased my "I'm not afraid to walk away" on previous girls in the past, and she witnessed one of them, leaving the girl devastated. She adores me, and she loves being dominated by me.

Do I keep her (unwarranted) fear alive by not responding to it and let it sit/breed? Or do I attempt to comfort her and talk it out of her head? A certain amount of fear is healthy in my opinion as it keeps the spark alive, keeps the mystery. But too much probably kills it.

Any thoughts?
Well clearly it has disturbed you enough to the point where you felt the need to ask for advice here on SS. That being said, if its bothering you that much, then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Dont just sit around and let things continue.

If you let this sit and continue going on, things are just going to get worse for you, where you will become completely sick and tired of all the unnecessary attention shes giving you.

I would just go to her and tell her that you need some space every once in a while, and maybe mention to her that when two people see and talk to each other too much, they tend to get tired and bored of each other. If she still doesnt get the message, or she cant fathom what your saying and freaks out, then you may need to reconsider this chick as a LTR candidate.
 
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