"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The fear is strong in this one

godofanxiety

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****. I just came back from a wonderful night out, filled with frustration. I just can't approach. They were everywhere around, cute, not so cute, skinny, chubby everything. Most of them more than bangable. But no, I freeze like a deer in the headlights. A panic attack. I'm reading the bible, the book of Pook etc. in the hope it will help.

The thing is, I look better than average to good, I was told that many times and not by my aunt. I can also be very interesting when in the right moment. I know how to talk, I can make people ****ing laugh. So why do I **** myself when I see a girl? Three sec rule? Tried it and failed. Three years rule more likely.

Sorry for the pointless post, as I said, I am reading the bible and will try to internalize the contents because I simply can't go on like this. I am 28 ****ing years for god's sake. And I behave like I'm 14. But I had to rant a bit, in order to get some weight off my chest.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Poonani Maker

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I'm 34 and I behave like a 14 year old sometimes too. It's not our fault, godofanxiety. JudgeMENTAL women are to blame. At least you're going out. I bought $300 worth of clothes today, and here I am sitting at home.

I might go out in an hour. Downtown is pretty dead though because this is a college town, and MOST of the hot college girls are out of town visiting family.
 

theunflushables

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I know how you feel. Anxiety is a *****. I fight it every single day. What I have found works for me is to keep reminding myself no one fvcking cares. Everyone is too worried about themselves that they wont really care if you open them. Even if they do, if they aren't in your social circle there wont be negative repercussions.
 

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There's a difference between fear and psychological feat which is anxiety, worry, nervousness and insecureness. Real fear is that deer in front of that car. Psychological fear is overexagerrated by your mind.Best way to get rid of them is to observe and feel it when it happens then you will find the root of it and realise it's no big deal.
 

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Perhaps you should change where you are looking. Some people work better in different atmospheres. I feel that way in bars and clubs, but in somewhat more laid back environments I feel much better.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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godofanxiety said:
****. I just came back from a wonderful night out, filled with frustration. I just can't approach. They were everywhere around, cute, not so cute, skinny, chubby everything. Most of them more than bangable. But no, I freeze like a deer in the headlights. A panic attack. I'm reading the bible, the book of Pook etc. in the hope it will help.

The thing is, I look better than average to good, I was told that many times and not by my aunt. I can also be very interesting when in the right moment. I know how to talk, I can make people ****ing laugh. So why do I **** myself when I see a girl? Three sec rule? Tried it and failed. Three years rule more likely.

Sorry for the pointless post, as I said, I am reading the bible and will try to internalize the contents because I simply can't go on like this. I am 28 ****ing years for god's sake. And I behave like I'm 14. But I had to rant a bit, in order to get some weight off my chest.
The only thing anyone can tell you is to just do it. It's all in your head... no one can help you, only you can help yourself.

So what if you make a fool of yourself or do something stupid? Everyone makes mistakes and you won't ever see them again. Just laugh it off if anything. You'll feel so much better once you've done and you'll just want to do it more and more. You learn by your mistakes and you get better at it, it's a game.
 
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