"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Fatherly Theory

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Ok I re-re-rewrote this and cant seem to make it sound right. So I will extremely simplify it for my own sake and others please feel free to elaborate.

The Fatherly Theory - Being a father figure to your current target will create a sense of confidence on your part, and security/protection/comfort on her part.

Little things like kissing her on her head, telling her everything will be okay, and the best... telling her what to do and always having a plan will help you land her. I can't stress that last part enough. Daddies always know best. So know it!

I've somewhat been self-developing this theory alongside the practice of other DJ techniques and it has done exceptionally well. (Scored four new one's since the beginning stages of development). Now, drop this theory during physical moments obviously.

EXTRA TIP for the beginner DJ's out there: If you have trouble approaching women, apply this father figure attitude to the approach. Initiating the first stages of Keno can also be mirrored by where her dad would touch her. She wont reject you if she lets her father touch there (shoulder, back, you know...)

Now dont make the mistake of doing some fatherly things like spoiling her, being overprotective...blah you get the point. Dont be the AFC side of dad.

Anyone care to elaborate please do
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by themanwithnoname
your theory is flawed since a lot of people grow up with different parents.
I know that...think outside the box. Generally speaking kiddo.
 

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I heard that women unconsciously seek a man that resembles their own dad. Both physically and mentally. (and men seek women that resemble their own mom)

I mean, for you guys that have or had girlfriends, look at their pictures and compare with your moms. Do you see similarities? Same eyes maybe? Same type/color of hair? How about psychological traits?

If all i mentioned is true, then acting like a dad with a woman could potentially work. However, i am afraid that she might take it as being too friendly or as you being afraid to pull a more MANLY move on her, resulting in failure from your part.
 

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It works to a certain degree.

What you're simply doing is taking control of the situation and her frame.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by flyinshark
I heard that women unconsciously seek a man that resembles their own dad. Both physically and mentally. (and men seek women that resemble their own mom)
This theory ignores inter-racial couples, which are quite common these days.
 

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Originally posted by flyinshark
i am afraid that she might take it as being too friendly or as you being afraid to pull a more MANLY move on her, resulting in failure from your part.
You have to recognize when to put the father figure aside and make a move. This theory isnt to actually be a father, so yes, grow balls, dont get into a friend mode. You can avoid that by being ****y at times and powerful at others. Friends are rarely mirroring father figures imo.
 

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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
This theory ignores inter-racial couples, which are quite common these days.
Thats why it is a theory. They are unproven and usually have exceptions and loopholes. Dont confuse this with law which is straightforward one or the other.
 

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Originally posted by TillTheEndOfTime
This theory ignores inter-racial couples, which are quite common these days.
moreso than before but still not that common atleast where I live
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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pretty common round here.....i'm the product of some jungle fever:cool:
 

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maybe.

basically a girl likes a guy that can take command and lead her. Showing he knows what he's doing. and he's certain about the results of his actions.

basically this is a preconception of whether this male would be an ideal candidate for being a good father and husband in the future.
Everything that you do that's correct leads up to it. Under certain circumstances, some things you mess up at or lack will be your downfall...e.g. financially stable (provider).

I think once you hit a trigger in the girls mind, she will undoubtedly feel attraction towards you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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