The Fall of a Fellow DJ

[B-Lemond]

My friend, (lets call him Steven) who I am concerned about, used to be almost a model DJ. (ok maybe not that good, but still, he was C&F, prized himself, not afraid of approaching, etc.) Basically he was heading in the right direction to be a success in life.

Recently his "ghetto fabulous" cousin has been living with him. I just heard from Steven and it's been about a month since the last time I talked to him. It's amazing how he has changed. He talks like he is from the projects with this ghetto accent, when really he is one of the richer families in his area. He has stopped dressing nice/above the rest and just started dressing like a thug. He has turned into a thug who doesn't want to do anything but fight. He was telling me about how he and his cousin beat some guy with a brick and then they ran because the cops were coming. He was never a real violent person. Now all he thinks about is beating people down.

BASICALLY, his life is being ruined. He is becomming a *ghetto fabulous thug* and his thug cousin is ruining his life. He looks up to his cousin and wants to be just like him. I wouldn't be surprised if he ends up in juvenile hall.

He is taking the wrong path in life and I don't know what to do to help him.

 

[backbreaker]

speaking from personal experince, nothing you can do but let him relalize he has to be his own person.

Ovbiously, he wasn't as much of a DJ as you thought he was. He might have been good with women, but it was all a facid as in he thought his persona is what women wanted. His cousin has showed him a different path.

When I was younger, I did something simliar to him. I don't talk about it much but when I was 10, even though I grew up in the better part of my city (and that's putting it lightly), I started staying with my Grandmom while my mom finished school. My grandmom sayed int he worst part of my city.

It took me being shot at in a drive by at the age of 11 to realize what the **** I was getting myself into. I understood, even at an early age, ,that this is these people's lives, but it doesn' thave to be mine.

to this day, I don't look down on people in gangs or that live that type of life. for most of them, it's all they know. But it's not all I know, and I owe myself more.

you can't help someone until they want to be helped.

 

[blinkwatt]

When things start to get bad enough he will realize what he is doing. Some people have to learn lessons on their own.