JJMcLure said:
Seems she thinks you're a jackass or a cheesball with your C+F routine. My guess is you aren't congruent with it and you are overdoing it - which is easy to do and a common mistake.
Her eye roll means "give me a break" - she's not buying your "act". Tone it down and try some other methods. C+F can't be your only trick, it soon gets tired and once you know someone you would be prevented from anything more than a superficial interaction because you'd always be making ****y remarks. In other words, deepening rapport would be very difficult. It should be used to interperse a few remarks now and again.
You hit the nail right on the head:cheer:
I'd say this explanation is the most accurate, and why I got not just one, but TWO eye rolls. LOL. Now that I ruminate about what happened, I'd say that I went a little extreme with the ****y/funny approach. I would've tried to establish rapport by becoming less and less flippant; however, perhaps as a reflection of her age (18), just about every comment this girl made had a double-meaning or was arbitrary. The girl would continue to ****-test me, and likewise, I'd continue to play along by responding with an amalgam of jesting and ****iness. I did a poor job of Kino'ing, too.
She'd tell me several times that she thought I was really hot; she (joked?) about wanting to see naked pictures of me; said I should be on the bachelor; offered to do a threesome with me (I facetiously responded by saying that I wouldn't want to share her with anyone and that she was all the woman I wanted, which threw her off guard); and, she laughed pretty frequently at the things I said. BUT, when I asked for her phone number and AIM screenname, she gave me fake ones -- I mean glaringly obvious that they were fake (I did this while she was still in a group). I teased her by quipping that I do not have "chump" or "loser" scribbled on my forehead, and she laughed... LOL
I suppose I had my share of misfires and lame comments, too, and that's where the eye rolls probably came in, like you mentioned.
As for this girl being a complete stranger, she isn't. I've seen her at two parties before this one, but at that time we were just acquaintances.
During our exchange, whenever I pressed her to follow her inflated sexual come-ons with ACTION, she'd backpeddle and make lame excuses.
I'm guessing this girl is the classic attention *****/****tease. She never opened up to me, because I didn't connect with her on a serious and visceral level. For one thing, I should've isolated her from the group of girls she was with. Oops.
Oddly enough, though, every guy there wanted to become my friend, because I was so uninhibited with the girls. But, that's the only silver-lining I could think of,
Anyway, a lifetime of success cannot happen without moments of abject failure. It's all good.
Calibrate. Calibrate. Calibrate.
