"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Exit Strategy

Evil_Muska

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I've been doing some thinking about the idea of approaching women in general, and I've realized that one big reason a lot of guys are afraid of asking a woman out, is they don't know what to do if they get rejected, hence: they have no Exit Strategy.

Countless times I've found myself asking a girl out, getting rejected, and just standing there... not knowing what to say. So I end up saying something stupid and/or just walking away. I personally think it would be worth discussing how to deal with this part of the situation, hence: how to walk away from rejection without making a fool out of yourself and becoming discouraged in trying again with someone else.

Example: There's this girl at a local Subway that I was flirting with, and I decided I wanted to try asking her out the next time I was there. I know how to ask, so I spent my time thinking about "How do I make a smooth exit if she says she has a boyfriend?"

What I came up with was something to the effect of "That's too bad, we could a had a lot of fun together" or just smile and be like "Such a shame, guess you'll just have to miss out then huh?"

Having these exits in mind gives me loads more confidence, cuz I know if things don't go the way I want, I can walk away still looking and feeling good about myself.

So yeah, what is ya'lls take on the Exit Strategy?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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