"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The Ex

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We split up like... 2ish months ago, maybe 3. Something like that. So I just stopped talking to her. First she said it was because I'm moving away, then because she doesn't feel the same anymore... I tried again to see if she's just rationalizing the whole thing and she again said that the real reason is cause she doesn't feel the same.

But she keeps saying hi to me on msn, most of which I completely ignore. Sometimes I'll have a dead-end 5-10 minute conversation. She's a cool girl, and I often feel like the reason things turned out the way they did was bad timing in my life and hers. I live far away now but I'll visit home once or twice, and she lives really close by...
Thing is, I enjoy her company and she's an interesting person to just talk to and hang out with. And yeah, I'm still a bit interested in her. She is not one to EVER initiate anything. Is it worth just hanging out with her casually when I'm in town? I can see this going either way -- a burden or a good time.

Seems screwed up that she keeps talking to me even though this has been over for a while... I mean we were "friends" (more like loose acquaintances) before, but what the hell?
Anyway, no need to try to figure out what she's thinking. Have you guys ever had similar situations?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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KontrollerX

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Hey if you enjoy her friendship and can value her as only that keep on talking with her and hanging out with her but make sure to ask yourself if you're going to still be cool being friends with her once she starts fvcking some other guy and maybe telling you about her new relationship.

If you are fine with that continue the friendship.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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... Have you guys ever had similar situations?
Nope. You break up for a reason and holding on to emotional threads of the relationship isn't worth the effort. Get out of the time warp and LIVE!
 
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