"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Ex

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We split up like... 2ish months ago, maybe 3. Something like that. So I just stopped talking to her. First she said it was because I'm moving away, then because she doesn't feel the same anymore... I tried again to see if she's just rationalizing the whole thing and she again said that the real reason is cause she doesn't feel the same.

But she keeps saying hi to me on msn, most of which I completely ignore. Sometimes I'll have a dead-end 5-10 minute conversation. She's a cool girl, and I often feel like the reason things turned out the way they did was bad timing in my life and hers. I live far away now but I'll visit home once or twice, and she lives really close by...
Thing is, I enjoy her company and she's an interesting person to just talk to and hang out with. And yeah, I'm still a bit interested in her. She is not one to EVER initiate anything. Is it worth just hanging out with her casually when I'm in town? I can see this going either way -- a burden or a good time.

Seems screwed up that she keeps talking to me even though this has been over for a while... I mean we were "friends" (more like loose acquaintances) before, but what the hell?
Anyway, no need to try to figure out what she's thinking. Have you guys ever had similar situations?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey if you enjoy her friendship and can value her as only that keep on talking with her and hanging out with her but make sure to ask yourself if you're going to still be cool being friends with her once she starts fvcking some other guy and maybe telling you about her new relationship.

If you are fine with that continue the friendship.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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... Have you guys ever had similar situations?
Nope. You break up for a reason and holding on to emotional threads of the relationship isn't worth the effort. Get out of the time warp and LIVE!
 
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