The ex effect.

[Chickfight]

So I'd been seeing and banging this girl casually for over two months.
She'd call me often, always behaved well and said she loved me. So I felt it was safe to assume to girl was pretty into me, but I kept it fun and casual.

About a month ago I moved for an internship that's going to last a while. I wasn't trying to keep a LDR with her or anything, I was even seeing other girls, but we called now and again. Then I notice she's getting in touch with this guy on facebook and I find out from her (and my) friend he's her ex, but they're just friends now. I'm not an idiot, I know what's up, you don't just keep in touch with an ex like that, especially not those kinds of messages. The sad thing is he's not even THERE either. He lives in Africa.

I didn't call her anymore, but after about a week she asks me to skype. I was distant at first, but she acts completely normal, flirty, suggestive, not one fckin hint, so I figured hey maybe I was tripping, but lo and behold a few days later she "needs to talk" and basically breaks up with me when we weren't even really together, saying she can't talk to me anymore cause she likes me too much bla bla and more bs like that (best I've heard since this one chick told me she can't be with me cause Jesus said so). I laugh and tell her okay. Since then she's deleted me off facebook and strangely all my friends she met through me aswell. Guess she really wanted to cut me out. Haven't contacted her and don't plan to.

The real problem I have with this is that the ex thing has happened before no matter how into me they were. My game was tight with her. She would've done anything to be with me and we had some amazing times, so I just don't get it. What did he do that she would fall more in love with him? He's not even fckin there. Hopefully one of you can help me understand this. How do I prevent this from happening?

 

[ecko280]

IMO you should not care. You had your fun for two months and you're talking to other girls. Girls come and go for all kind of reasons. As long as you had your fun, thats all that matter.

 

[Chickfight]

IMO you should not care. You had your fun for two months and you're talking to other girls. Girls come and go for all kind of reasons. As long as you had your fun, thats all that matter.

Normally I'd agree, but I see a pattern here. Obviously I did like her since I'm posting about it here and I'll admit (to you guys) that I was hurt by it.
I don't want it to happen again.

 

[sodbuster]

Who said it has to be her old BF? More likely she's found local d!ck

 

[ELMER_GANTRY]

some chicks will go back to an ex in a blink of an eye esp if they haven't got over them. Had a similar experience just like you. Girl broke up with the bf and remained friends. I banged her for 2 months and when I left for Thanksgiving vacation she started talking to him more. When I got back, we had sex one last time and said she was back with him. Found out a couple months ago they are engaged.

In your case, she probably found another guy in your absence and has the ex for future use. She probably didnt think it was a serious relationship or just wanted the sex. Anytime you leave for a period of time theres always the possiblity of them finding a new dude. Kind of ironic that a buddy of mine was seeing a chick for a few weeks and she said her ex is from Africa and then recently she cut all contact with him and won't take his calls.