Remulak
Senior Don Juan
What do you do when your seeing a girl and the ex bf rears his ugly head and tries getting back in the picture? Do I play the indifference card? Stories of situations such as this would really help me.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
The Ex BF
- Thread starter Remulak
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DonJuanByNature1978
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Yo, you say it how it is... If you and her have a relationship then it should be what it is, i.e. something that doesnt invovle x's... So, let her know how you feel, but also let her know she is free to do what ever she wants, but you will also then react accordingly.. i.e. let her know... look if you not ready to be in a series relationship, we can start dating other people etc... look... dont be a *****... trust me, if a girl is really into you, her x's would be out of the picture quick... and if that is not the case.. find another girl.. keep your options open, it will make you look and feel less of needy...
(Treat the underlined as a strikethrough)DonJuanByNature1978 said:
Pretty solid advice, although I wouldn't go into the ‘tell her how you feel’ stuff...
I really wouldn't pay it much attention.
Worse come to worse, you’ll get to enjoy single life again.
I like the last part.DonJuanByNature1978 said:
A girl who is really into a guy who has plenty of other options, knows that he can drop her with a snap of his fingers if she doesn't make him happy and having an EX back in her life won't make any guy happy. Girls who do that know that they hold the upper hand in this relationship and the reason they do that is that they are not really afraid of losing you or do not really care about losing you.
Remulak
Senior Don Juan
Good points guys,
He's not back in her life but I see the beginnings of him trying to creep back in. She's really into me but he leaves her messages on her myspace and stupid stuff like that. I just wanted to know the correct response for an issue like this if anything progresses..
He's not back in her life but I see the beginnings of him trying to creep back in. She's really into me but he leaves her messages on her myspace and stupid stuff like that. I just wanted to know the correct response for an issue like this if anything progresses..
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
You need to provide more infomation.
For Eg. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105969
In this thread.....The Truth was worried about his girl. It was fairly simple for us to see that she was acting ok. (The Truth i know what its like when your emotions are all over....its hard to see the simple truth of a matter)
However.....
My wing just split up with his GF yesterday.....i saw it happening a week ago. Why?
Well once again it was obious. He had been going out with her for 1 month now....Her ex BF of 5 years who she was going to get married to that dumped her came back into the scene a week ago to "pick his stuff up" and she was acting wierd ever since until yesterday where she told him......
Give more infomation and we can give you a more valid case on whats happening and what to do.
Sarge On!
For Eg. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105969
In this thread.....The Truth was worried about his girl. It was fairly simple for us to see that she was acting ok. (The Truth i know what its like when your emotions are all over....its hard to see the simple truth of a matter)
However.....
My wing just split up with his GF yesterday.....i saw it happening a week ago. Why?
Well once again it was obious. He had been going out with her for 1 month now....Her ex BF of 5 years who she was going to get married to that dumped her came back into the scene a week ago to "pick his stuff up" and she was acting wierd ever since until yesterday where she told him......
Give more infomation and we can give you a more valid case on whats happening and what to do.
Sarge On!