Remulak
Senior Don Juan
What do you do when your seeing a girl and the ex bf rears his ugly head and tries getting back in the picture? Do I play the indifference card? Stories of situations such as this would really help me.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The Ex BF
- Thread starter Remulak
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DonJuanByNature1978
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Yo, you say it how it is... If you and her have a relationship then it should be what it is, i.e. something that doesnt invovle x's... So, let her know how you feel, but also let her know she is free to do what ever she wants, but you will also then react accordingly.. i.e. let her know... look if you not ready to be in a series relationship, we can start dating other people etc... look... dont be a *****... trust me, if a girl is really into you, her x's would be out of the picture quick... and if that is not the case.. find another girl.. keep your options open, it will make you look and feel less of needy...
(Treat the underlined as a strikethrough)DonJuanByNature1978 said:
Pretty solid advice, although I wouldn't go into the ‘tell her how you feel’ stuff...
I really wouldn't pay it much attention.
Worse come to worse, you’ll get to enjoy single life again.
I like the last part.DonJuanByNature1978 said:
A girl who is really into a guy who has plenty of other options, knows that he can drop her with a snap of his fingers if she doesn't make him happy and having an EX back in her life won't make any guy happy. Girls who do that know that they hold the upper hand in this relationship and the reason they do that is that they are not really afraid of losing you or do not really care about losing you.
Remulak
Senior Don Juan
Good points guys,
He's not back in her life but I see the beginnings of him trying to creep back in. She's really into me but he leaves her messages on her myspace and stupid stuff like that. I just wanted to know the correct response for an issue like this if anything progresses..
He's not back in her life but I see the beginnings of him trying to creep back in. She's really into me but he leaves her messages on her myspace and stupid stuff like that. I just wanted to know the correct response for an issue like this if anything progresses..
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
You need to provide more infomation.
For Eg. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105969
In this thread.....The Truth was worried about his girl. It was fairly simple for us to see that she was acting ok. (The Truth i know what its like when your emotions are all over....its hard to see the simple truth of a matter)
However.....
My wing just split up with his GF yesterday.....i saw it happening a week ago. Why?
Well once again it was obious. He had been going out with her for 1 month now....Her ex BF of 5 years who she was going to get married to that dumped her came back into the scene a week ago to "pick his stuff up" and she was acting wierd ever since until yesterday where she told him......
Give more infomation and we can give you a more valid case on whats happening and what to do.
Sarge On!
For Eg. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105969
In this thread.....The Truth was worried about his girl. It was fairly simple for us to see that she was acting ok. (The Truth i know what its like when your emotions are all over....its hard to see the simple truth of a matter)
However.....
My wing just split up with his GF yesterday.....i saw it happening a week ago. Why?
Well once again it was obious. He had been going out with her for 1 month now....Her ex BF of 5 years who she was going to get married to that dumped her came back into the scene a week ago to "pick his stuff up" and she was acting wierd ever since until yesterday where she told him......
Give more infomation and we can give you a more valid case on whats happening and what to do.
Sarge On!