"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Evolution of Disinterest

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This is my theory on why men become disinterested in women over time, according to where they fall on the Beta/Alpha scale. Let me first provide an Alpha/Beta key, so you can figure out who you are.

Level 1 Beta (Complete Beta Male) You are, or would like to be in a LTR. After sex, you like to cuddle with your gf and talk about stuff. You would never dream of cheating, nor do you ever get the opportunity)

Level 2 Beta (Average Beta) You are typically in a relationship, and generally just feel fortunate to have landed some pvssy which you refer to as the love of your life. You notice other womem, but dont usually have the balls to approach. You may cheat on your girl if had the perfect opportunity, but this opportunity never happens. You also hang around after sex, and are still interested in stretching her pvssy again in the near future.

Level 3 Beta (Recovering Beta) You have graduated beyond clinging for dear life to the first girl that ever slimed you. You entertain the idea of fvcking a lot of girls, but you spend too much time posting on SoSuave and watching pick up videos, with out ever really working the field. You probably have a gf, who you hide your activities of this forum from. After sex, you may not really want to listen to her talk, but you dont have the balls to dig out, in fear of loosing/offending her

Level 1 Alpha - You have a gf, but you fvck girls on the side when you can. After you nut in her, dont really want to hang around and talk, but you find a way to tolerate it. You eventually loose interest and move on

Level 2 Alpha - You dont have a gf. You have several women you nail on rotation. You loose interest in a woman after you nut and it takes you a week to a month before you are interested in nailing her again

Level 3 Alpha - (The true seed spreader) You fvck all of the previous Alpha/Beta's girls when they are ovulating, and your senses for detecting ovulating women are fine tuned. A lot of women want to fvck you, but typically when they are in their fertile period. The sex is usually rough, hair pulling, scratching, slapping, etc. After you nut, you leave. You might not be interested in that women ever again, although you may fvck her again after around a year (The time it takes to have a baby and be ready for more of your warrior sperm rampaging through her vagina)

Ok, now that you have figured out who you are, or would like to be, lets get on with the theory.

If nature wants only the strongest genetic specimens spreading seed, then it goes to follow that nature also wants these "chosen" males to spread as much seed to as many women as possible, before some genetically less qualified beta loser gets a chance.

To ensure that these chosen seed spreaders dont get caught up in relationships, and wasting valuable seed spreading time listening to her latest drama from work, nature has designed a feature that once the sperm shoots into her throbbing ****, the male absolutely must escape fast, continue his quest for ovulating pvssies to fill, and never return again for at least 9 months, at which time she is ready for another load.

Thats all good an fine for the Alpha, until he either ends up in a situation where he has to be with a woman for a few days, or he meets a girl he genuinely likes and wants to abort his destined spooge quest so he can "get to know her a little better."

This is like a glitch in the matrix when a seed spreader wants to settle down. Nature has done everything in it's power to ensure this doesnt happen, but there is a hole in the matrix, the oracle. The oracle in this situation is self control, and self mastery.

"You have the choice, Neo, to not shoot your load."

If you are any of the Alpha types, and you have noticed that as soon as you ***, you would do almost anything to escape, you may have also noticed that as long as you dont ***, there is no problem. This is the only way for a true Alpha to ever spend more than one day with a women he is fvcking. You can never *** with her, never. *** in someone else, or whack it when she's not around, and do not think about her when you spank it. Her vision must not enter your mind, or it will be over.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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lol congratulations. you are well on your way to never having a meaningful relationship with a woman in your life.
 

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Well I don't think ad hominem attacks really add to the discussion.

The concept in the OP about nature "making" men who have strong seed get sick of women quick so that they spread their seed to as many women as possible is interesting. However, we have to remember than the chance of fertilization for humans from one round of sex is very low. Only 5-10%, if that. So it's evolutionarily better for a man to screw a woman a dozen or so times before getting bored. This will dramatically increase his chances of fathering children.

Also, a thought just came to me. Perhaps men who have exceptionally strong, fertile sperm are the ones who "get sick" of women quickly. The sperm has a higher chance of fertilization so he comes from a line that has maximized its reproductive success by bouncing from woman to woman.

Whereas the man with weak swimmers might need to have sex many times before fertilization, so those types of men have evolved to stick around longer.

It's a hypothesis anyway. You could test it by comparing loyal men's sperm to cheating men's sperm and if there's a correlation between cheating=vigorous sperm, then it might be right.
 

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Being a true alpha male isn't just about sex and women. There are many, many more qualities you must have other than "f*ck a lot of women" to be a true alpha male.
 

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wow that was hilarious.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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(JJ) said:
lol congratulations. you are well on your way to never having a meaningful relationship with a woman in your life.
You got the wrong mentality brother. You are thinking of women in terms of relationships, but when you look at the guys that are banging most of the hot women out there they are alphas who don't give a sh*t about them (and often treat them like sh*t).

To be successful with women you need to change your mentality from putting women on a pedestal (most men) to thinking of women as nothing more than pieces of meat. I know it may sound bad and anti-female but it's the mentality that the great seducers of women have.
 

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f283000 said:
You got the wrong mentality brother. You are thinking of women in terms of relationships, but when you look at the guys that are banging most of the hot women out there they are alphas who don't give a sh*t about them (and often treat them like sh*t).

To be successful with women you need to change your mentality from putting women on a pedestal (most men) to thinking of women as nothing more than pieces of meat. I know it may sound bad and anti-female but it's the mentality that the great seducers of women have.
I understand that treating women like sh*t makes them have attraction to you. i also understand that my particular combination of treating them like that, looking like a model, taking care of my personal sh*t (making my grades, having money etc), and having meaningful communications with those that earn it has lead me to have my share of random hookups as well as meaningful ltrs. personally, i prefer to have a girl to come home to who i know has more than sexual attraction to me and vice versa. but that's just my point of view and it's not better or more right than anyone else's.

so, in summation, i am successful with women. so much so, that I CHOOSE to be monogamous and have real relationships with them. feel free to disagree, i just feel the way i feel because of the environment of loving parents who are in love with each other in which i was raised.

as far as the original topic of this thread is concerned, it's an interesting theory, and while it fits some highly specific traits of alphaness (ie, having lots of sex with lots of girls) it doesnt encompass all of them. this is what would be the difference between a theory and a law in physics, or anything else for that matter.

while it may be true that these "alphas" from your post are having a lot of sex, that doesn't make them "alphas" in the strictest sense of the word. dictionary.com says "having the highest rank of its sex in a dominance hierarchy." having tons of sex, as korrupt said, an alpha male does not make. being a leader, focusing on oneself, being successful in most endeavors, etc, etc are the traits that make up an alpha male.
 

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Zarky said:
Well I don't think ad hominem attacks really add to the discussion.

it wasnt so much an attack as it was an expression of my opinion of HIS opinion. as in "my opinion of this post is that your mindset and the way you approach women as being mindless machines made to have sex with alpha males and that purpose alone is going to lead you down a road of a loveless life with few, if any, real connections with women. if that's the road you so choose, then good luck on it, and enjoy it for what it is"

i just didnt take the time to spell it all out. ;)
 

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Good point all around, considering this was meant to be mostly a humorous post, as most my threads are. Zarky has the right idea, and interesting expansion on my theory, which also could be very viable.

JJ is right, Alpha is more than fvcking, but take notice that I am referring more to Alpha Seed Spreaders, rather than tribe leaders. Either way, this is what happens to me, and I have a girl coming to visit from England for a week. She's hot, but my only way to get through it is to not *** until the last day, right before I drop her at the airport. Perhaps a final BJ to send her off.
 

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so, in summation, i am successful with women. so much so, that I CHOOSE to be monogamous and have real relationships with them.
Right, the premise in the original post is flawed. I did not fit into any of the listed categories. I know I can get other women. I am not "afraid" to lose her. I'm with my LTR because I CHOOSE to be, not because I'm stuck with her and have no options. And I refuse to believe that screwing around is the standard to mark the highest height humanity can rise to.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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zekko said:
Right, the premise in the original post is flawed. I did not fit into any of the listed categories. I know I can get other women. I am not "afraid" to lose her. I'm with my LTR because I CHOOSE to be, not because I'm stuck with her and have no options. And I refuse to believe that screwing around is the standard to mark the highest height humanity can rise to.
Im not into LTR but i agree with this, the OP is transforming Real Alpha Males in just spearm bank to woman and i refuse to be such.
 

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This is the nerdiest thread in quite some time. Get money, screw women, have fun, enjoy family, work hard. Don't take most of it that serious, your gonna die one day. enjoy the ride. Christchurch you guys will nerd up how to take a dump.
 

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Hit and run, i need to practice this.
 

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Nothing to it, just let your c0ck chose your next target and your mind the way to it, just dont overthink it.
 
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