The endless loop

[DonJuanit0]

When I was younger I thought it would be so nice having girlfriend, a long term relationship! As soon as I got it, I had sex and 1 year later I wanted more! I got myself another girl, had sex with her too! Again, same thing, I wanted more and more! Sometimes it was LTR, sometimes it was just sex. The thing I never understood is that I was always after women, not as an AFC, the only thing that made me and makes me happy is women! Flirting, sex, even the pain after a break up or a turn down makes me feel alive! I broke up 1 month ago because I was tired of my 1 year LTR and now I feel so lonely because there is no woman in my life, there is no game. I will eventually find someone else, but at this point I realize how I have nothing else to enjoy my life other than women. I am in a university studying what I want, I have a good social life and I am a cheerful person, but still, having no woman brings me down. I think I never searched for anything else to make me happy other than this and the point is that as soon as I find a woman, after 5-6 months top I get bored and there it goes again, loneliness till the next one comes. This forum has done me great good in understanding women and learning how to act like a male but I got lost in the game.

There are two reasons why I wrote this:

Firstly because I needed to say how I feel right now.

Secondly because I want to advise anyone who will read this that women is not all there is out there. Again, I am not saying that I don't have good things in my life, I do, but I only cherish the moments I am with a woman, which turns out to be wrong. We should appreciate other joys in life as well.

 

[TheException]

Two points that I will address...

1.)

I am a cheerful person, but still, having no woman brings me down.

This is a problem and will forever hold you in the category of "being a chump". You HAVE to find a purpose that makes YOU happy. Life can be broken down into many many categories and women/love life is just but one of them. Sit down....meditate....and truly think about where you are going, and where you want to end up. What accomplishments to you want to achieve? What hobbies do you want to pick up that you havent got around to yet? Grab a notebook....jot down some things...and make some short term + long term goals. Success and happiness will follow.

2.)

I find a woman, after 5-6 months top I get bored and there it goes again, loneliness till the next one comes.

Now this is something every guy goes through.

Guy in relationship - Wants to bang different hot girls. He is happy with his girlfriend but craves variety

Single Guy - Wants to emotional connect with a girl and find someone who treats him good. He likes being single and gets to ride the emotional roller coaster every time he goes out. Will he find a ONS tonight or wont he?

No matter what you are, whether single or in a LTR there are going to be negatives. You just have to learn to accept the bad with the good. For example...I am in a relationship with a great girl and our sex life is amazing. She treats me really well and we do not fight. HOWEVER...I still see hot girls and have that desire to bang them. Its just something I have accepted.

 

[DonJuanit0]

yeah your first point is completely correct, I do need to sit down and think what else there is. I have long term goals like getting the job I want and I am working on it, but still... To make it more clear, I get to enjoy those things only when I don't think about getting a new woman in my life and I don't feel lonely because of it. Need to think more about it I guess...

Your second point is true as well and I know it, but isn't it real painful when you know you can have that hot girl but you are in a LTR so you need to back off? Everytime I fall for it, I break up, rush there, get what I want and then start all over again! The loop... It's not that I didn't try though... With my last gf we had the same relation you described. No fights, real good sex but I want more! I am 25 years old and I feel asphyxiated after some time has passed. I don't believe in the "right one". It's me and myself fighting over LTR or not.

 

[Trixx]

You need to become more balanced. Diversify what makes you happy. It seems like your mood depends completely on relationships and sex.

My recommendation is honestly to just forget about women for an extended period of time. Find out more about yourself...What are your passions? What are your goals? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

 

[DonJuanit0]

You need to become more balanced. Diversify what makes you happy. It seems like your mood depends completely on relationships and sex.

My recommendation is honestly to just forget about women for an extended period of time. Find out more about yourself...What are your passions? What are your goals? Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Never thought of having a break. I could try that...