"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The end of society as we know it...pickiness

solo1

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There's nothing wrong with having high standards, everyone has them. But once it reaches the point that someone rejects someone else before giving them a shot, it's already over. Everyone's ego is inflating too big in these big cities.

So with that said, a lot of women I've come across, especially the ones who are still very much single are extremely picky. And the dumbest sh!t is they dont even have anything to offer themselves, be it looks, a body, or even a career for that matter.
Attraction is a tricky thing, you cant control it.

I'm in my early 20's, I'm open to dating inside or outside my race, you dont even have to be a model or a perfect 10. as long as im attracted to her is all that matters. What pisses me off is that some girls write me off w/o giving me a chance, be it offline or online...no matter what you do/say, you never know what someone's thinking. A lot of these girls have more serious issues than just being picky, they are this way because they fear taking a risk and being rejected.
The other day I was at a bar over at the counter enjoying a beer. Ironically that same day there was a speed-dating event going on in the lounge area. Halfway into it, this woman almost into her 30's came over I introduced myself and we had a small chat...I asked her how it went..her response was of disappointment, and she left before the thing ended. So there I am thinking to myself, "she has no reason to be picky, she's a 4.5 at best and she's getting old."...society is crumbling as we know it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I don't know, I enjoy feeling comfortable enough to be picky about who I decide to give a chance. Ever think that if people were more discerning about who they choose to marry the divorce rate could be lower? Albeit people would need to recognize the best type of partner for their personality, looks alone can sustain a relationship for only so long.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
I don't know, I enjoy feeling comfortable enough to be picky about who I decide to give a chance. Ever think that if people were more discerning about who they choose to marry the divorce rate could be lower? Albeit people would need to recognize the best type of partner for their personality, looks alone can sustain a relationship for only so long.
yea thats my point, everyone judge's a book by its cover so quick nowadays that they dont even have a chance to get to know one's personality. But i think the concept of 'having choices' are getting into a lot of people's head, especially when they have nothing to offer themselves to backup their 'choice selection'.

Evolution = pickiness
Yes and no. If one's picky for the wrong reasons then it's already over. Or if one rejects someone first because they fear being rejected.
 

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solo1 said:
yea thats my point, everyone judge's a book by its cover so quick nowadays that they dont even have a chance to get to know one's personality. But i think the concept of 'having choices' are getting into a lot of people's head, especially when they have nothing to offer themselves to backup their 'choice selection'...
Yep, they definitely need to bring something to the table too; something of substance besides a 'wish list.'
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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oh please....

this just sounds like whining.

how many obese unattractive burger flippers are you willing to "give a chance" to?

i would imagine that there are LEGIONS, PHALANXES, BATTALIONS of women that you would reject at first sight, just 1 millisecond short of sight-unseen. and according to statistics, most american women are falling into the unfvckably obese category.

so how is that any different from picky women?

we're all picky and it is our prerogative.

your sentiment is expressed succinctly in:

"COME ON! GIVE ME A FRICKIN CHANCE HERE!"

i can sympathize with that. i can EMPATHIZE with that even. but that doesn't make it any less ridiculous.

that's why we NEXT.

we all need someone but we don't (any of us) need any PARTICULAR someone. and just because a girl or girls reject you out of hand, it doesn't mean girl #7 will.... so you next and roll through until you find something that'll stick.

delta
 
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