You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
The city that I live in has one of the largest chinese communities in the western hemisphere. The white guys I see dating chinese girls are, without exception, hardcore beta nerds. And the girls all look the same - shapeless, flat and thoroughly unattractive tomboys (think Mark Zuckerberg's wife).Burroughs said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You'd think we were ruled by the Aztecs or ancient Egyptians. It's a death culture. Where else could something like World War or the atom bomb come from?Burroughs said:
Not really. It's just that 99% of men don't understand the difference between a buyers' market and a sellers' market. For good reasons, the marriage market is and always has been a buyer's market. The government artificially replaced marriage to men with marriage to the state -- which vastly inflated the size and social weight of the sexual marketplace. That doesn't mean that marriage market value ceased to exist or ceased to be the best representation of valorization in mating. It just means that most men are being isolated and detoured into the sexual sellers' market for some years. Remove the isolation, shine the spotlight on the shady flagmen, and the traffic to the sexual marketplace will be interrupted.DonGorgon said: