The Emotional Connetion

[ebracer05]

This may be a more complex question than I'm giving it credit for.

There are a lot of really "important" things people talk about in regards to picking up girls... status, confidence, ect. And that's great and I think it's important, but what I think that's all building up to is making some sort of meaningful emotional connection with the girl. So my question is, what's the best way to cut through the normal small talk crap that conversations have a tendency to divulge in to and get to a deeper level about something that will invoke some good strong emotion quickly? I would appreciate any suggestions or resource recommendations.

 

[Iceberg]

Do interesting things that you're passionate about, and then talk about them.

I mean, don't spend 2 hours talking about yourself. But I find that I tell a good, emotional story because I do things that are worthy of telling stories about. For instance, I just got back from spending a few weeks on a farm in Europe. Learned some carpentry skills, metalworking, and of course farming. So when I talk to girls about this, it creates an image of me that girls are into.

So, in my experience a good way to create an emotional response is to tell a fun or exciting story. Live an interesting life for yourself (not girls), but take advantage of the side effects...which are, sharing the cool stories you get from it.

 

[loveshogun]

For instance, I just got back from spending a few weeks on a farm in Europe. Learned some carpentry skills, metalworking, and of course farming. So when I talk to girls about this, it creates an image of me that girls are into.

Oh, yeah... how was that? Sounded pretty awesome - getting back into proto-human roots, learning real survival skills.

Plus, relatively cheap trip to Europe, right?

 

[Iceberg]

It was cheap in the sense that I got free room and board on the farm. And food...they fed me. Airfare is still a b*tch.

But yeah it was an awesome experience. Sheep. Turkeys. Horses. And there were about 10 very-friendly people living there. The guy who ran the farm with his wife were more than happy to teach me about the local culture.

You could pretty much walk around snacking on things you pluck from trees (cherries, wild strawberries, etc). Good times. Wish I stayed longer.

 

[blueline]

Dude, every girl is different. Some girls will get a strong emotional connection to you if you let them just jabber on and on about totally conceited bull****. Others will get an emotional connection if you talk to them about really nerdy things. Then you have girls that love to help miserably depressed men, which serves as an emotional connection.

You can't fake an emotional connection or facilitate it. It just happens or it doesn't.

It's not required for sex, btw.

 

[Korrupt]

Dude, every girl is different. Some girls will get a strong emotional connection to you if you let them just jabber on and on about totally conceited bull****. Others will get an emotional connection if you talk to them about really nerdy things. Then you have girls that love to help miserably depressed men, which serves as an emotional connection.

You can't fake an emotional connection or facilitate it. It just happens or it doesn't.

It's not required for sex, btw.

Agree with this. Gambler (famous PUA) believes that if you know how to build a connection then you can connect with anyone. But I personally believe that (after quite a bit of dating) some peoples personalities just click/connect and some peoples don't. I'm more of a listener than a talker and hardly ever tell stories (not my thing and I'm not very good at it), so being on a date with a girl who's also a listener isn't going to go very well because there's going to be A LOT of silence if neither one of us wants to talk. On the other hand, talking too much when you're on a date with a big extroverted talker won't be great either because they're probably going to get bored sitting there listening to you yap indefinitely (and vice-versa).

 

[thevilittletroll]

cold reading stories and techniques work really well in building emotional connections. i love doing the cube for this one. any other cold read will do the trick. if done properly she will think you really get her on an emotional level. she will then feel connected to you.