"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Edge?

WalkingStick

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Hey guys,

I havent been on here in a while, which bit me in the *** by the way. Anyway, a year ago I found this site and my confidence shot up, I was the happiest I had ever been and 9 months ago I began dating my current girlfriend.

Since then I feel like I've slowly lost my edge. She seems less interested in me than she was at the beginning of our relationship. I can't tell if this is the natural progression, or if we should end it.

Little things, like her guy friends are bothering me more than they should, I've found myself analyzing the tiniest little things. I've already shown her insecurity and at one point I flipped out and actually confronted her and asked if she wanted to break up. Basically, I'm a baby back *****.





How can I get back my edge? How can I become confident again about our relationship? Should I drop her and start over?

This isnt me and I dont want to feel this way anymore
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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King Turi

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If you still want to be with her, you can always stop being an insecure little ***** and be cool.

Or you can drop her, and be an insecure little ***** with someone else.

You have to stop being a sook, mate.
 

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WalkingStick said:
Hey guys,Since then I feel like I've slowly lost my edge. She seems less interested in me than she was at the beginning of our relationship.
More than likely,these two things are intertwined.

You lost your edge,and as a result,she seems to be losing interest.

WalkingStick said:
I've already shown her insecurity and at one point I flipped out and actually confronted her and asked if she wanted to break up.
Yeah,this was BAD. I bet her attraction for you took a HUGE hit because of you behaving this way.


If you two are still together,you can turn things around,but you'll need to HURRY to start to repair things.


There's a good chance that emotionally,she's already started to leave the relationship. Once the heart/mind leaves,it's just a matter of time before the body follows.



WalkingStick said:
How can I get back my edge? How can I become confident again about our relationship?
Easy.


Check out THIS REPLY.

Don't worry,it's not a 10 page thread to read,it's just one single reply.

If you follow the info there,it should help to get your relationship back on track.


WalkingStick said:
Should I drop her and start over?
NO.

If you just drop her and get someone else without understanding what went wrong here,you'll just run into the same problem again with a different girl.



I've been through this before. You ALREADY have the solution to this within yourself,you just don't realize it yet,but once you read the reply I suggested,it should arm you with the knowledge you need to correct this situation.



Later man.
 

horaholic

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What does the DJ bible tell you to do????????
 
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