The dreaded cold approaches

[bingo_]

Hahah, after reading some of those stories, a quote from Swingers comes to mind.

"Dude, you're so money and you don't even know it".

that movie rules. got it on dvd.

 

[krasnyiLion]

hey DJs, i did more cold approaching yesterday.
9/9/06
girl at a mall in a store:
me "hi, is this the female section or the male?"
her " i think it's the female"
me " nice shoes, what are they 7inches tall?"
her " hhahahhaha no, they are not that big" (smiles) "what do you want i am short" (ec and smiles)
me" what is your name?"
her " i don't know"
me "you are too young to be so forgetful"
her "yeah.........i dont know my name...................anyway.........bye"

i walked around and i found another store
girl "hi do you need help"
me "depends"
girl "on what? (smiles)"
me " do you even work here?"
her "no"
her "hahaahahah i feel like i do though"
friend joins her and start talking, she changes focus

cute group of 4 girls at the mall with their feet on the table
me "tsk tsk tsk didn't your mom ever tell you not to put your feet on the table"
girl look at me with a WTF look "NO"

no succes there but hey, you win some, you lose some right
we went clubing with a friend and his niece

the niece was pretty but it was mainly me and him trying to pick up chicks, that was the main focus

me "lets go dance"
girl " ok"
so we danced (i suck at dancing, i think i need i'll get some dance lessons)
they saw how horribly i danced and that is it.

i must have asked like 7 girls to dance at least and i got rejected everytime, oh well.......i approached this hot chick
me "hey, do you want to dance?"
girl "no i am tired"
me "what is your name?"
girl "HB"
me "my name is KrasnyiLion"
girl " nice to meet you" (we shook hands and we must have held hends for like 10 seconds there)
small talke where she lives and stuff but i wasn't getting anywhere, today we will hit the beaches let's see how that goes

all in all i probably approached like 10 or 11 girls, not i didn't even get to a number close, but that is okay TODAY IS ANOTHER DAY
and like cuss da'mato used to tell IRON MIKE TYSON

"the difference between the hero and a coward is that: they are both afraid, they are both scared of getting hurt, they are afraid of dying, but is what they do that makes them different. is what the hero does that makes him a hero, and what the other fellow doesnt do that makes him a coward"

 

[krasnyiLion]

i went to the beach with my friend and well there were a lot of hotties but they were kinda young looking, i guess i wasnt really paying attention but we saw to hot girls and i approached, i asked them if they wanted to play volleyball they said no. their mom was really exited and kept telling them, "are you sure girls"
girls " yeah we are tired"



i seriously don't think an approach is an approach unless i have stablish rapport and gone for some kind of closing, im at the number closing and date going stage still but, hey.

i guess this counts as another one.

 

[krasnyiLion]

9/11/06
bank
i deposited my check today, and i tried to flirt with the teller, but , she was kinda not my type so i was half azz flirting and looking away alot hehehehhe
so i could not bring my self to do any kind of close on her.

she was enjoying it though.

9/11/06\
went to buy a slurpy at Baskin Robins across the bank, young looking girl, kinda ugly though, but since, oh well i was here , i started to chat her up
she did not show too much interest, i did not either

seeing as this was getting lame i decided to approach the next ok looking girl i saw just for kicks, expand my social circle, or screw in case i had to decide my hand or an average girl.

9/11/06
no one at the library exept this girl, who had a cute face, but she wasnt really my type,
me " unique hair style you got there"
her " oh thanks"
me "are you trying to be different? is that what is going on?"
her "yeah.......(big smile) (very receptive)"
me " are you in college or high school?"
her "i am in college"
what is your major?
" its criminal justice, (then she went on and on and on about what her plans where, what school she went to, why she picked that school and stuff. While i kept eye contact and smiled, threw a couple of questions here and there.
then we talked about my plans and my work
she was really excited i came up to her,
"i got to go searching for my book but give me your number and we'll talk later"
"sure, i will give it to you (with a flirtatious smile)"
looked for pencils, could find one that worked, sharpened hers and gave me her number.

with a kind of embarrassed face and a shy smile "what is your name by the way" she asked
Its krasnyiLion
"mine is youaretoogoodforme girl"
"see you"
her "bye"

 

[jack knife]

Embrace the sexual state.

 

[krasnyiLion]

13- 9/17/06
i was at a subway place
and the girl there was around a 6 i would say.

me "hey"
her "hey"
her"so what are you going to get?"
me "im still deciding"
her"okay let me know, when you are ready"
me " ok i know what i want, i get blah blah blah"
me " how is your day going?"
her " (with a EC and smile) it's going great, blah blah, blah,
she went on about her day. i wasn't really into it but i looked pretty interested with eye contact and smiling,
me " so are you going to school?"
her " yeah, continuation school, i go to gilbert"
me " what is your name?"
her " averagechick"
me " cool my name is KrasnyiLion"
her " nice to meet you"
her " okay here it is, it's going to be blah blah blah blah"
me" hey averagegirl what is your number?"\
her " oh please......(with eye rolling and the how dare you hit on me tone)

i actually found it quite funny, she is average, making minimum wage, not a great body at all, high school drop out and treated me like she was too good for me. hahahahahahahahhahhahah
the HOT girls are flattered, this one gave me an attitude and she is AVERAGE at best hhahahahahahah. you guys should have been there

14- girl at the gym
girl "hi"
me "hi"
girl "so what are you going to get?"
me "i'll get anything with chocolate.......let me see, how about that mocha drink"
girl "with protein powder?"
me " yeah why not?"
girl " we dont have any straws.............im sorry"
me "don't take it too personal, you know what?...........i never use straws at home"
girl "hahahahaha" (this girl seemed very open, and friendly [yeah it's her job, but hey])
me " so are you going to school or anything?"
girl "blah blah blabh blah (talked to me about all her plans, her major, why she chose that, what school she goes to)
me " (pretended to care)
me" what is your name?"
her " cutegirlthatsellsstuffatthegym"
her"and you?"
me" my name is krasnyilion"
her "(extends her left hand) nice to meet you"
me "wrong hand (with a smile)"
her " i know hehehehhehehe" we held hands for like 3 seconds "they are kind of cold too"
me " yeah"
me " i am sure you have been told this before but i find you very attractive"
girl "(blushed) oh thank you"\
me " i am serious" "are you single?"\
her " no i got a boyfriend"
me "damm too bad, i was about to ask for your number too"
girl " i dont think my boyfriend would apreciate it that very much"
me "yeah he probably get jelous"
me " bye"
her "bye"

 

[krasnyiLion]

i went on a date, on the 16th which was yesterday.
it was one of my wingman's cousins
she is cute like about a 7 i would say

she calls me and i am at work finishing up some charting and incident reports

her " hello"
me "hello"
me "who is this?"
her " i am somegirlthatyouthinkiscutebutdontremember"
me" which somegirlthatithinkiscutebutdontremeber, i dont recognize your voice"
her "remember blah blah blah blah"
me " oh ok i remeber now"

i would really love to give you all the details of the convo but i dont feel like writing it out so, in conclusion we set up a date for later, and she would call me back when she was off work.
so she did and we went out.

long story short i messed up, everything was going well but i was kind of nervous and i was hesitant, this girl did not have a high IL but she thought i was cute, and very interesting.
she is my wingman's my friend's cousin and i was kinda acting niceguyish not because of her but because of my friend.
in the back of my mind i did not want to hurt her, play her, or put all my moves on her because, Girls come and go but you dont really find true friends.

we were holding hands (she was resistant to kino at first, she would tell me not to pull her (when i playfully grabed her by the arm) she would mention not to touch her when i had prolonged kino. but little by little i was making her more confortable.

i led her to a store, and we were holding hands (this is were things kinda went downhill), because we were having fun and she was talking about her self and stuff, but she asked me if i had a GF.
she asked about a picture in my room with a girl.
i told her she was just a friend,
she kept asking questions.

i knew what to do, and could have kept my mouth shut and be misterious, i could have told her she was just a friend and stuff. of some C+F ****,
no.
i did not want to lie to her due to my friend, and i told her i messed around with her, and we kiss and stuff.
she concluded i was a player (she had that idea about me)

i made things worse by trying to explain myself, and she became distant
i did a very AFCish thing ( all through out the date i kept thinking about my friend. I could not game her, i did not want to really.
i told her
"if i would ask you to be my girlfriend (she wants to be exclusive with someone even before she kissess, she wants to be "the girlfriend" not just some friend) there are alot of things i could have done to recover, and i could have kept my mouth shut but i didn't. anyway i told her "if i would ask you to be my girlfriend and i stopped messing around with other girls, what would you say?"
me " i do not cheat and have not cheated on any of my girlfriends before"
her "i kind of like this other guy"

i know BS or maybe not so much be BS but i blew it by telling her i was messing around with other girls.

she is attractive 7/10 but i just could not work my magic thinking about my friend and how i did not want to game this girl because down the road i did not want to break my friendship with this dude.

so i told her it was the last time we were gona go out
she asked me if i did not want to go out with her anymore
i said, no i dont
and i called my friend right after to tell him how it went.


yeah, it was niceguyish but in a balance between my friend and the girl
i rather have my friend.
girls will come and go but, this dude is cool.

we have gone sarging together and we screwed this hot asian chick once.
we have a nice time hanging out, so it really meant a lot to me that he trusted me with his cousin (he gave her my number)
i did not want to disappoint him

 

[DJDamage]

13- 9/17/06
me "hey"
her "hey"
her"so what are you going to get?"
me "im still deciding"
her"okay let me know, when you are ready"
me " ok i know what i want, i get blah blah blah"
me " how is your day going?"
her " (with a EC and smile) it's going great, blah blah, blah,
she went on about her day. i wasn't really into it but i looked pretty interested with eye contact and smiling,"

Up until here you were doing fine but then:

me " so are you going to school?"
her " yeah, continuation school, i go to gilbert"
me " what is your name?"
her " averagechick"
me " cool my name is KrasnyiLion"
her " nice to meet you"
her " okay here it is, it's going to be blah blah blah blah"
me" hey averagegirl what is your number?"\
her " oh please......(with eye rolling and the how dare you hit on me tone)

Things turn downwards as soon as you started with your routine. Your approach should be more casual and you were doing fine but I would stretch the conversation to more interesting topics, rather then "do you go to school" and "what is your name". As soon as you asked those questions these two girls realised that the jigg was up and you weren't really interested in getting to know them but you wanted more (and that's ok but you needed to establish some more rapport first). You also approached them while they work, and you should try to avoid that, unless you are planning to frequent the establishment often and thus you can build rapport this way (you are not the first stranger today nor the last one that wanted more then a big mac)

Try going to places where they are casually hanging around like a book store or a library.