The downside of being a DJ

[Ace of Flames]

What? there are downsides? lol, i know, i was shocked too.

recently, this current semester actually, this girl has been interested in me. whats wrong with that, you ask? well, she's like a 4-5.... and with baggage to boot! she keeps giving me letters talking about how im so funny, she loves hanging out with me, wanting to go out, im one of her best friends, yada yada. and earlier this week, i got a 2-page letter! uh-oh, those are never good...

well, im readin the letter, expecting bad things. and i go on to find out she was raped as a child and her family is ****ed up, basically lots of info i dont care to know. at the end it says i've never told anyone before but i feel like i can trust you, and dont tell anyone else.

so, like.... wtf do i say to that? "sorry, sux2bu." i dunno, i dont like this girl like that at all, and i definately dont want to get mixed up in all this drama. it goes against the way i live my life, which basically is, as little negative things as possible. i dont have time to be feelin bad, u know? dont bring me down with your problems.

what do i do? right now, i just kinda ignore her, and only really talk to her when she comes around. once school is out, i doubt i'll ever see her again, should i just hold out? thanks in advance

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Be a real man?

Either have her comitted, or have her family ssent to prison. Let her live out her life in foster care...

I dunno, she's damaged goods? Somebody help me, I used to care... Thanks for sucking the life outta me. Whysay that is a BAD thing to get girls from all walks of life interested in you?

I got date raped on wednesday and slept with two girls inside of a freezing cold truck... I was too drunk and drugged up to be able to come, so I'm alright. Got tested today and gotta wait to see if I caught anything... why should I care about a letter some girl wrote you?

She's probably an AW anyways, begging for your attention and trying to grab it any way she can. You do know that habits are learned right? She probably saw her mom controlling her father by saying she was abused and/or wants to commit suicide.

Sometimes you can tell when they are serious. When they write you a love letter with really fancy handwriting and doodles of butterflies along the edges that progressively gets dark and has disturbing cartoons of life beyond sanity... that is when you start to care.

 

[Ace of Flames]

i dont want a girl with drama drama dragging me down with her. i dont care if she's interested, just keep it to herself. i dont care what happens to her or whatever, i just want to have one less thing to worry about. i mean, some fairly unattractive girl coming up to you at random times of the day, slipping you notes and walking off. it doesnt look good, and its usually when im with friends or having fun. then i read it and im like "goddammit, now i have to feel guilty for 5 minutes." and then everyone is like ooo whats that about? and they ask me about it for the rest of the day. it just sux, its not a huge problem or anything.

and dude, that doesnt sound like a big success story or anything. drugs and sluts in a truck with the fear of std's. wow, if only i could lower my standards so much. there are better ways to get threesomes, im sure.

besides this post, i usually like what u have to say, so like..... lets forget this happened, k?

 

[Silent B]

Tell her that she has some serious issues she needs to work out, and that maybe the only reason she's interested in you is because she sees you as a source of stability rather than a real potential partner, but that you're not looking for that right now.

 

[Warlord]

Dude, don't call yourself a DJ if you say your best friend is a female.

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Ace of Flames
i dont want a girl with drama drama dragging me down with her. i dont care if she's interested, just keep it to herself. i dont care what happens to her or whatever, i just want to have one less thing to worry about. i mean, some fairly unattractive girl coming up to you at random times of the day, slipping you notes and walking off. it doesnt look good, and its usually when im with friends or having fun. then i read it and im like "goddammit, now i have to feel guilty for 5 minutes." and then everyone is like ooo whats that about? and they ask me about it for the rest of the day. it just sux, its not a huge problem or anything.

and dude, that doesnt sound like a big success story or anything. drugs and sluts in a truck with the fear of std's. wow, if only i could lower my standards so much. there are better ways to get threesomes, im sure.

besides this post, i usually like what u have to say, so like..... lets forget this happened, k?

A girl without DRAMA is like trying to find an honest politician, It won't happen!

You can show a bit of sensitivity to women with out becoming "soppy." Be strong, but show sensitivity. Having fun is important, but damn dude! this girl was raped and you can't show any sign of care? DJ's aren't cold bastards that only want fun all day. We have feelings too, it's just that we have to control our feelings.

I know you aren't a therapist, but you can show a tad bit of care. Chances are, this girl likes you. There is way more to the "game" then fun.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Originally posted by Warlord
Dude, don't call yourself a DJ if you say your best friend is a female.

um.... reading is fun, try it sometime. thats what she said about me in these letters. i dont have best friends.

i never said drama is bad. i just dont want super emotional touchy subject dr. phil crap to worry about. i am sensitive. its not like i tell her to f*** off or anything. im pretty much the nicest guy around, im friends with people of all different kinds of groups and backgrounds.

its just, this immense amount of pressure placed on me. what am i supposed to do for her, u know? i dont know how to fix a problem like that. what does she expect from me? all i can do is feel sorry for her and tell her its ok. what good is that for someone with these kinds of problems? i cant help her in any real way. i'll just tell her to find a therapist or something.

i agree with silent b also. i'll do that.

 

[Marlimus]

Dude, don't call yourself a DJ if you say your best friend is a female.

That is sexist bull****. A woman is inherently not good enough to be a don juan's best friend?

 

[Marlimus]

Listen, you need to cut this girl off quickly. She does not add value to your life, and is obviously seeing pity by trying to elicit sympathy in order to get an emotional response out of you. It is a form of manipulation.

 

[Gubby]

LJBF her like any girl would do to an AFC. Be firm, but maybe you can fit some understanding in there too? Do what you think is best, helping others is good but sometimes there's not much you can do and it's just not worth the negativity.

...Actually though, if you do anything but ignore her that might make her hang on for another ten years. Just LJBF I guess.