The Don Juan way to play this

[khadd909]

Hello my fellow don jouns I hope your days are filled new experiences and great success


Here is a new round with a hb8 Who claims to be a challenge and likes one , she adds she's very proud and pride won't let her just go for anyone.

History ....
I met this girl on tinder around 3 months ago had one funny sexy convo with her then stopped talking
Around a week ago I initiated again
This is where I am now

Me : Girl you remind me of a box of chocolates ...
Hb8: Hahahahhhahahaha
Hb8 : Now im interested in your explanation of why.
Me: Cause I want to take your top off...
Hb8: hahahahahahah Really (my name)
Me: So you want to keep all the chocolates for ur self
Hb8 : Im selfish for chocolates I can give u a bite ..btw My birthday is coming! Wanna party hard with me ?
Me :Excuse me miss ...I want more then a bite I'm greedy for the white chocolate( I was referring to her here ) Yeah sure why not when is ur bday white coco ?
Hb8: Greedy ...White coco, sooo cute (So, my bday ll be on the (date and the which club) u in ?
Me: would be my absolute pleasure
Hb8: Aaaaaa really ....I would be happy if u actually make it.
Me: Yeah I'm sure it would be fun ....Watcha doing btw wanna go for a cruise ?I can't sleep
Hb8: now like right now ....crazy
Me : Crazy I know
Hb8: Is good like this...R u not working/studying tmr ?Why u cant sleep?Need chocolates ?
Me : not till late ...Can you gimme some ?
Hb8: Im off tmr \o/...I dont think i deserve them...Not yet
Me:I don't think you actually mean that ....not YeT ( I know weak ) but u didn't know how to answer to that
Hb8 : ( after a weak answer like mine she goes over board ) I meant "u dont deserve it. Full stop ...But then i though i was going to be too harsh
Me: Why are you being so mean ( I know again weak )
Hb8: Im being realistic...Dont like to give hope to people and then get their dissapointement.
Melaying hard to get I dig that in a girl ( giving her what she wants to hear )
Hb8: Well play harder then...Im not an easy girl..Pride...Im too proud, thats why...Plus i like challenge.
Me: Shall I get my boxing gear when I see you lol

End of convo here I didn't send her anything after that and considered her to be not interested at all



The next day
Hb8 : Where r u?
Me: just finished uni ...u ?
Hb8 : you want to join me for lunch then walk around at the mall
Me : ( don't know if I should have been a challenge or I did the right thing here but I said alright got which mall and told her will be there In half hour

This was our first time meeting
I kept it cool
Was teasing her
She was touching me a lot ( said that she likes to touch everyone ) really ....
Gave one genuine compliment about her smile we had a good time till she started showing me her list of people she kissed and had sex with (( yes guys she actually has a list )) and I'm thinking here way to be a challenge and picky over men anyways
She's in my car music is playing and she's saying I like ur music it puts me in the mood I leaned over like I almost was going for the kiss then pretended I was showing her something (( I'm working on building sexual tension and being a challenge )) she's she puts her hand over my face and looks in my eyes and I back away.
Dropped her off


2 days passed with no contact from me the the break of dawn of the 3rd day she txted me

Hb8: ( my name )
Me : hey hb8 what's up
Hb8 : I had smt to tell u...but I forgot ....But , it is confirmed your presence at my bday?
Me: I think you are suffering from a lack of vitamin ME that's why (( was this cool ? )) ... I'll try to free my self only to revive YOU for ur birthday
Hb8 hours later : Hahahahahaha that was awesome...I ll need to take some of those vitamins...I think tuesday is nice day to have them.

The end here I try to keep the convos short and to the point

2 days later

Me : it's late at night but u crossed my mind.... I wanna wish you a happy birthday and a blessed year to come
Hb8: wanna come to this bar I'm drinking Jameson ...thanks for ur bd wishes
Me :Too light for me try crown if they have it or chvas 18 now that's a drink (( trying be a challenge yes ...no is that the right way to do it )) ...We still partying hard tomorrow or that's changed ??(( her actual birthday party ))
Hb8: Its tmr for sure ...big big party
Me: alright tomorrow it is ....have fun
Hb8: uhuuuuul ...I'll see you there ..thank you ..kissss



First I want your comments on what do you think I did wrong and what did I do right please

Second what do you advice me to do tomorrow ..should I get a friend of mine ...should I get a small gift (( I think not ))
Do I have a chance with his girl


I'm open to all ur ideas and thoughts

 

[Desdinova]

btw My birthday is coming! Wanna party hard with me ?

You had her at this point. Get the date of her party, then tell her you can't make it. Go back to flirting. Work at getting her to suggest going out another day.

But I digress. You failed to pick up on her counter-offer disguised as a hint:

Hb8: Im off tmr \o/...I dont think i deserve them...Not yet

And the next day (regardless of how badly you messed up the convo), she sent you this:

Hb8 : you want to join me for lunch then walk around at the mall

She was touching me a lot ( said that she likes to touch everyone )

Women who initiate kino are interested. She was trying to cover up how obvious it was.

Second what do you advice me to do tomorrow ..should I get a friend of mine ...should I get a small gift (( I think not ))
Do I have a chance with his girl

I can't believe you're asking this 5hit. Don't get her a gift. I would suggest getting her a card, but since this is still new, I wouldn't even suggest that. If anything, get her a piece of chocolate to reference your earlier joke. A small piece of chocolate.

What's with this "do I have a chance" 5hit? Go in for the kiss on this date.

 

[Tiguere]

Yeq khadd.. Stop being a pvssy and go for the kiss

 

[khadd909]

Hey guys


Got the kiss got the lay everything went great that night spent it together humping like rabbits till the sunrise then dropped her to her place it was fun but after the sex she asked " honestly where u expecting this from me tonight as if she was guilt tripping after the sex " I responded n said no I just came to meet you and celebrate ur birthday with you . (( what happened here )) ??
The next day she sends me some pictures we took at the club I didnt text her back went ghost for 3 days to maintain frame. tonight I asked her if she has any plans for tomorrow night she didn't answer and on whatsapp it shows she read but picked to ignore 3 hours later I text her again saying " honey, you can't play hard to get with a guy who's hard to get " was being playful she also reads the msg and ignored....I don't understand it but it's all cool woman are woman she texted me back after couple of hours saying ....look at u ...I'm not playing hard ....can't do tomorrow this week is super busy for me ...but what was ur plan?


i know nothing happened to reduce her interest ...is going ghost has anything to do with this behaviour ?

I'm thinkjng text her back in few hours saying no biggie was gonna take you to a rave but I'm not the kind of guy who persist a lot so will do something when ur free ...cya later

Good game or use a different strategy ?

 

[jimmy18]

After sex, girls like to test how needy you are.

By double texting, you revealed it to her.

 

[khadd909]

WORD !!! No idea what made me do that ...ideas on how to get the upper hand again ?

 

[Desdinova]

The next day she sends me some pictures we took at the club I didnt text her back went ghost for 3 days to maintain frame.

You NEED to contact a woman the day after sex. If she feels like she got used for a lay, she jumps ship.

 

[Meisterman]

WORD !!! No idea what made me do that ... ideas on how to get the upper hand again ?

Stop caring so much.

 

[khadd909]

You NEED to contact a woman the day after sex .if she feels like she got used for a lay,she jumps ship

That's right I feel like I didn't know the frame of mind to be In after the sex so I didn't get in touch but am showing her interest by asking her out right ... Anyways I'm gonna txt her this now what do you think (((Well I thought we can try something different
I had 2 tickets for the formula one after party in yas island so lemme know if ur situation changes if not no well biggie get back to me when ur free ....cya later

 

[scsniper]

Alrite khadd909,
Ive only just joined this forum,and I dont really care about " plate spinning".Im more interested in encouraging my fellow man to take back his balls,but as im .here
You put in the effort,you bounced back,after a setback,showed tenacity,and you cracked it.Take some well earned confidence from your success.
But your doing the opposite of showing frame now,your looking lame and indecisive.
If you wanna be a badass,just fuc*ing and chucking,then be a badass.If you wanna be the guy who cares about her feelings cause you f*ucked her,then be that one.
Who cares which one you want to be,but be that one,then you maintain "frame".or as i call it being consistent.
You dont have to see her again,or do a single thing she wants you to,but be civil.
You look like a guy trying too hard to be a friggin Don Juan instead of being one
You are the man,you have the REAL value,you have the power,live your life with that philosophy,dont fret about calling or not callling for 3 days.
Who gives a sh*t.Make them chase you,only play games when you have to.STOP CARING SO MUCH,as Meisterman,so wisely said.
U wanted to be a badass and ignore her for three days.
How does that tally with desperately texting her,when you started worrying.close the book,she knows too much,it will end in tears for you.Im on your side bud, im not slating you,im trying t help you out here
JAY