"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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the diffrence between it going down well or not

check_mate_kid_uk

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You know now to suck up to a girl or compliment her or seem needy.

Wait a second maybe oyu should compliment her? i said maybe! I realised somthing, sometimes if a girl tells me she likes me or even a guy says your such a good freind etc then i seem to like the person more in other cases i do not like them more.

So all i need to do is find what the diffrence is, i thought about it and came up with somethings.

Do not try and compliment people or say you like them at any point when they may be arguing with you and are anoyed with you, it just does not work.

When some one compliments you, this is great work, they give you a reputation to live up to and you try to live up to it, this makes you like them more. I have found 1 of the biggest things is to do witht he persons 'position in society' but that i mean in popularity and respect are they above or below you, a compliment from some one you look up to or is popular then you you like more then some one who is less.

If oyu do it to much it looses its value they will not like you for it anymore. But this does not mean only does it once you can do it lots just not too much to soon and dont repeat the same things.

To sum it up, if you are pouplar or looked up to what you say will mena more and htey will like you more, it also depends on you not saying it too much or the same things over and over and of course be sincere not over the top. that my freinds is the simple truth behind the diffrence between a compliment/praise that goes down well or does not (so in other words do not try and praise the most popular guy in school, although you can compliment a hot girl you just meant, because of course before they have an impresion of you the popularity/looking up to can not count untill they rate you!)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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WesCottII

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Bollocks. The difference between a compliment going down well and it not, is sencerity (sp). Compliment her on something you actually like about her, not something to score points in her book.
 

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i did mention it has to be sincere and yes it is very important but it is not the only thing that comes in to play.
 
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