For the five years in which I've been living and working in this central African nation, I have come to discover something quite interesting. While I'm not attempting to generalize or speak about all African women, what I have noticed so far however, is that a very good number of African women, unlike in the US and Europe, aren't very comfortable at all with the concept of casual dating. To some degree, one of course still finds a number of African women in their early to mid twenties who state openly that they aren't yet ready to settle down and are merely seeking a fling/a good time-that is, fun and excitement. But more often, the majority of African women tend to immediately consider almost all men whom they date as potential husbands...even when the latter may not yet be mentally or psychologically prepared for marriage.
In most of these countries with very high unemployment and poverty rates, if you're a young man who happens to work for a good company/enterprise, you're very often perceived as a good catch. Consequently, a woman whom you hooked up with but without the intent of getting involved with her as a longterm/potential marriage partner begins to see you that way instead. And should you reveal the truth that you didn't yet have marriage in mind when you guys hooked up...it often hurts them so much that they tend to take it personally and even start to consider you as an enemy.
My philosophy has always been to be honest right off the bat with the women I've so far dated here. That honesty has caused some of them to walk away but in the end, the most important thing is that I have felt at peace. I've never been one to make a promise to a woman while knowing fully well that I wouldn't be able to keep it. The concept of casual dating on this end is absolutely out of the question especially with women in their 30s. In the search for father figures for their children, they often fall for almost any man who promises to get married to them. Unfortunately, many men here take advantage of that vulnerability and immediately disappear particularly after having been intimate with them.
In most of these countries with very high unemployment and poverty rates, if you're a young man who happens to work for a good company/enterprise, you're very often perceived as a good catch. Consequently, a woman whom you hooked up with but without the intent of getting involved with her as a longterm/potential marriage partner begins to see you that way instead. And should you reveal the truth that you didn't yet have marriage in mind when you guys hooked up...it often hurts them so much that they tend to take it personally and even start to consider you as an enemy.
My philosophy has always been to be honest right off the bat with the women I've so far dated here. That honesty has caused some of them to walk away but in the end, the most important thing is that I have felt at peace. I've never been one to make a promise to a woman while knowing fully well that I wouldn't be able to keep it. The concept of casual dating on this end is absolutely out of the question especially with women in their 30s. In the search for father figures for their children, they often fall for almost any man who promises to get married to them. Unfortunately, many men here take advantage of that vulnerability and immediately disappear particularly after having been intimate with them.
