The difference between the guy who has the cute girlfriend and why you don't.

[stuka1939]

Looks aside, HE Believes HE IS GOOD ENOUGH and deserves an attractive girl.

Plain and simple, If you don't think you are good enough to get an attractive woman, the NEXT GUY WILL!! Chances are this guy could be uglier and less intelligent than yourself as well.

 

[Answers]

Thats true! All success starts from within.

 

[Interceptor]

It is important to understand your true, intrinsic SELF WORTH.


Please, understand yourSELF.

Get an image of yourself, your SELF CONCEPT.

And ask youself:
What resources do I need to be the man I want to be?

Go on this Quest to find these things for yourself.

Your PERSONAL MISSION Statement.

Once, you are well on your way working to achieving these goals, then begin to realize, deeply meditate on this, what YOUR WORTH REALLY IS.

Do you have compassion?
Are you a good listener?
Do you have integrity?
Do you truly pay attention to the people you are talking to?
Are you truly present?
Are you grounded?
Do you have enough Self LOVE that you can actually love and BE Loved?
Are you desperate? Needy? Out of control?
Or can you make sound decisions, in a cool, calm manner?
Are you easily thrown off and lose your temper?
Or do you respond maintaining good composure?

These are things that a strong , masculine, and mature man must ask himself in order to truly receive the good things in Life.


THIS is how you begin to observe yourself and get a better grasp on who you really are and your true woth to people.

Do you TAKE Value, or GIVE Value?


Then, you begin to truly FEEL your WORTH..and lose this sense of INFERIORITY, and not BEING WORTH IT, or HER.

YOu realzie that you DO have something to offer.
And you want to give this to people, but to people whom will APPRECIATE your GIFTS.

Dont be angry at those people whom do not or cannot appreciate you.
I know it hurts a little, but you must let them be free to make their own decisions.

You cannot waste your precious resources on people who will not appreciate you.
This MUST Stop.

If you are disrespected, you move on.
You do not make any more EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT in them.
Let them go.
Dont hate them.
Just let them go.


Learn to be a little more discerning.

Have standards.
Stick to them.
Have VALUES.
Stick to them too.
Have self respect.
Maintain that at all times.
Maintain good composure.
Maintain your Morale.


Gentlemen, you ARE 'good enough."

You just need to get to the point where you accept yourSELF.
And simply work on your goals in life, and work on improving your 'outer game' so that you can express yourSELF in the most OPTIMUM manner possible.

Because then you can truly GIVE. YOu can SHARE your GIFT.
People will want to be with you, because they GAIN so much, they cannot walk away from you.
Be that guy.

Be that guy, fellas.

The one you can count on.
The one whom people simply feel calm being around.
Be the guy that can share personal stories about his life, and receive support, not criticsm, because HE NEVER Criticizes or harshly JUDGES others.

The one who is powerfully masculine, doesnt apologize for being a man, doesnt seek apprioval or validation from women, but adores them with passion and a twinkle in his eye...

Cool, calm, determined, with tremendous Emotional Strength,and WISDOM he can share....


Life is far too short to hold grudges or resentment, or guilt or shame, or embarassment, or anxieties, or a SELF IMPOSED jail sentence....


A woman can have tremnedous VALUE, gentlemen.
Sweet, charming, warm, funny, supportive, intelligent, mature, and nurturing and comforting...
BUT YOU have VALUE as WELL.

Appreciate her, genuinely.
But please, for both of your sakes, do NOT put HER above you.

GOOD women do not want you to do that.
DO not be overly accomodating,
Always trying to please her.
Never saying 'no' to her.
Gleefully , but painfully jumping through her 'hoops'.

Learn to QUALIFY women.

Learn to ask her questions, be genuine, but ASK her Questions about herself.
GHer morality
her choices in life
her interests
her values
her sexuality
ALL these things and more are VITAL for you to KNOW!

LEarn to have Self Respect, and don't just 'fall' for any girl.

Remember to always Protect Your HEART,

And you must VALUE your HEART (and yourSELF) to do JUST THAT.

You are good enough.

Let your true 'self' SHINE THROUGH.


Becaseu you may not believe me, but good women, ONLY want that good TRUE , GENUONE SELF.
Not some 'act' or PERSONA. A guy who is a 'chameleon'.
With no values. No morals, ethic, or an identity.
A phony. Immature, and afraid under all that 'outer game'.

This is why you dont see the good women with them, or if you do , not for very long.


Dont be afraid to be yourSELF. never APOLOGIZE for being YOURSELF.

ESPECIALLY when you KNOW in your HEART of hearts, your true VALUE.

 

[reset]

Wow Interceptor. This is really it. And I think you can only get to this place, like you say, with some serious introspection. And I think ego is the biggest stumbling block to getting to this place. Ego and self-love, different things.

Men become men from their own free will and determination.

 

[Maxtro]

Interceptor,

You could repost what you just said in it's own thread, clean up the punctuation errors and it'll be bible worthy.

 

[juice veteran]

It is important to understand your true, intrinsic SELF WORTH.


Please, understand yourSELF.

Get an image of yourself, your SELF CONCEPT.

And ask youself:
What resources do I need to be the man I want to be?

Go on this Quest to find these things for yourself.

Your PERSONAL MISSION Statement.

Once, you are well on your way working to achieving these goals, then begin to realize, deeply meditate on this, what YOUR WORTH REALLY IS.

Do you have compassion?
Are you a good listener?
Do you have integrity?
Do you truly pay attention to the people you are talking to?
Are you truly present?
Are you grounded?
Do you have enough Self LOVE that you can actually love and BE Loved?
Are you desperate? Needy? Out of control?
Or can you make sound decisions, in a cool, calm manner?
Are you easily thrown off and lose your temper?
Or do you respond maintaining good composure?

These are things that a strong , masculine, and mature man must ask himself in order to truly receive the good things in Life.


THIS is how you begin to observe yourself and get a better grasp on who you really are and your true woth to people.

Do you TAKE Value, or GIVE Value?


Then, you begin to truly FEEL your WORTH..and lose this sense of INFERIORITY, and not BEING WORTH IT, or HER.

YOu realzie that you DO have something to offer.
And you want to give this to people, but to people whom will APPRECIATE your GIFTS.

Dont be angry at those people whom do not or cannot appreciate you.
I know it hurts a little, but you must let them be free to make their own decisions.

You cannot waste your precious resources on people who will not appreciate you.
This MUST Stop.

If you are disrespected, you move on.
You do not make any more EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT in them.
Let them go.
Dont hate them.
Just let them go.


Learn to be a little more discerning.

Have standards.
Stick to them.
Have VALUES.
Stick to them too.
Have self respect.
Maintain that at all times.
Maintain good composure.
Maintain your Morale.


Gentlemen, you ARE 'good enough."

You just need to get to the point where you accept yourSELF.
And simply work on your goals in life, and work on improving your 'outer game' so that you can express yourSELF in the most OPTIMUM manner possible.

Because then you can truly GIVE. YOu can SHARE your GIFT.
People will want to be with you, because they GAIN so much, they cannot walk away from you.
Be that guy.

Be that guy, fellas.

The one you can count on.
The one whom people simply feel calm being around.
Be the guy that can share personal stories about his life, and receive support, not criticsm, because HE NEVER Criticizes or harshly JUDGES others.

The one who is powerfully masculine, doesnt apologize for being a man, doesnt seek apprioval or validation from women, but adores them with passion and a twinkle in his eye...

Cool, calm, determined, with tremendous Emotional Strength,and WISDOM he can share....


Life is far too short to hold grudges or resentment, or guilt or shame, or embarassment, or anxieties, or a SELF IMPOSED jail sentence....


A woman can have tremnedous VALUE, gentlemen.
Sweet, charming, warm, funny, supportive, intelligent, mature, and nurturing and comforting...
BUT YOU have VALUE as WELL.

Appreciate her, genuinely.
But please, for both of your sakes, do NOT put HER above you.

GOOD women do not want you to do that.
DO not be overly accomodating,
Always trying to please her.
Never saying 'no' to her.
Gleefully , but painfully jumping through her 'hoops'.

Learn to QUALIFY women.

Learn to ask her questions, be genuine, but ASK her Questions about herself.
GHer morality
her choices in life
her interests
her values
her sexuality
ALL these things and more are VITAL for you to KNOW!

LEarn to have Self Respect, and don't just 'fall' for any girl.

Remember to always Protect Your HEART,

And you must VALUE your HEART (and yourSELF) to do JUST THAT.

You are good enough.

Let your true 'self' SHINE THROUGH.


Becaseu you may not believe me, but good women, ONLY want that good TRUE , GENUONE SELF.
Not some 'act' or PERSONA. A guy who is a 'chameleon'.
With no values. No morals, ethic, or an identity.
A phony. Immature, and afraid under all that 'outer game'.

This is why you dont see the good women with them, or if you do , not for very long.


Dont be afraid to be yourSELF. never APOLOGIZE for being YOURSELF.

ESPECIALLY when you KNOW in your HEART of hearts, your true VALUE.

this is excellent. the thing is i know i have to do this, but i dont know how to do this. can you give some practical exercises of things we can do?

 

[AznPlaya]

Ye exactly work on yourself most and all the self is my motto and i can c u be doin that 2 the hardcore!!!
Excellent post everybody should be readin sht like dis instead of fucin gay azz pick up lines

 

[AznPlaya]

Juice veteran its not that u dont know how to do that, iz that ur not givin urself permission 2 be doin all these things!! i remember i had all these problems and i thought it was the people or the environment around but i found out the hardway that everything starts from internally.
So basically it means instead of changin other people change urself first and give urself permission 2 be cool sexy and etc... hope it makes sense

 

[Answers]

Great post Interceptor. One of the best I've read. I'm saving the thread to my favourites because of it.