"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The difference between guys and girls

backbreaker

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I hate when my wife does this ****, but all women do this.

so my wife comes back from the gym and she shows me this selfie that her "friend" at the gym too and it's of a female who is pretty built. my wife is petite, and in shape, but she's not very "big". she is kinda jelly of girls that can put on muscle mass and she can't.


But what she's really doing lol, is she is fishing for a compliment. I'm supposed to look at the picture and then reaffirm to her "hey babe, you look better than she does (she does, the other girl is not very feminine), shes not even that cute". And she really isn't, but it's the principle of the matter.


that's the main difference between men and women as I see it. Women, attractive ones live in a hyper reality. My wife, if she had a facebook account could put that picture on there and have 20 guys tell her that she looks better, and how the other gilr is not attractive. And **** in all honestly, the other girl isn't UGLY.. she's just too muscular for my tastes, and the other girls can probably post a picture of my wife, and have 20 guys tell her that that she's more attractive.


As a guy, even for an attractive guy, you learn early there is a pecking order, and you learn to deal with it. If I posted a pic of the 6'5 guy in the gym wit his shirt off with a 12 pac and posted it on my make believe facebook account just about everyone would say "damn that dude is hot as ****, sorry bro lol"


I mean, you can't even really do anything about it. Say I ignore a chick, which I do all the time, there are 19 other guys right there, if she's hot enough. If it's attention she wants, it's attention she'll get.


My game, really got really good when I stopped thinking about all this **** and just started approaching women I thought where hot. Too many variables, it'sjust lie sales. At the end of the day you have to talk to clients to make money
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I used to think women would come up to me (lol) or I could walk up to them and say something to the effect of 'hey here's my number let's go out sometime'. This of course, rarely, if ever, happens.

Yesterday I was doing some work in the bookstore and the barrista was super cute, totally my type. She made the shyish flirty eye contact, passing my table, etc. I'm happily in a relationship but sometimes I wanna approach a chick just for the sake of approaching.

I didn't, of course, mainly because I'm a huge pvssy with cold approaching. Then I got to thinking, what did you think was gonna happen?? She was just going to walk up to your table and slide you her number?? That aint gonna happen. You actually have to TALK to women to get them comfortable and get a number. A dude just walking up to a complete stranger and asking for her number may work for some of those high-volume PUA's, but I'm pretty sure the success rate of this is very low, like 1 in 20 girls at best.

Anyways, that's a long-winded way of saying I agree, you have to talk to b1tches.
 
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i think that PUA's make cold approaching more daunting than it really has to be. I mean the term itself. COLD APPROACHING. I don't' ant to do **** that's cold lol and approaching?


Just talk to people lol. It's really not all that hard to do. If you can get past the first 2-3 minutes talking to a chick, your natural instincts will take it from there.


And if they are so much of a **** where they won't have small talk with you, **** em LOL.


tHINKING OF it as successes / not successes in itself is wrong. just go and ****ing talk to women. to people. **** you never know. just, talk.
 

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Talk when you want to talk.

If you don't want to talk, smile.

If you don't want to smile, glance, look, whatever.

The point is to try your best to show them you are interested. If you can, it'll be fun. ;)
 

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I've always said that, a lot of times, it isn't approach anxiety at all. You simply don't WANT to approach her. Forcing yourself to approach women you have zero interest in is a waste of time.

Approach anxiety is ONLY when there is a woman you WANT to meet or talk to but you freeze up.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have a natural aversion to being manipulated or controlled, so when chicks try those "tell me I look amazing" games I tend to flip the script on them. After a few times, they realize they're not going to squeeze something out of me that I don't naturally want to give, and they stop.
 
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