The Difference Between Covert Disrespect & Overt Disrespect

[soulforge]

man, was she compliant when you were escalating?

Yeh always. However in an LTR the landscape is a little different from when you're escalating with a chick that you just started dating and you want to bang.

 

[Bigpapa]

Yeh always. However in an LTR the landscape is a little different from when you're escalating with a chick that you just started dating and you want to bang.

yeah, most likely she sensed that you have a weakness in the age Gap between the 2 of you and wanted to see if it is the case

looks like she was correct based on your reaction

 

[soulforge]

yeah, most likely she sensed that you have a weakness in the age Gap between the 2 of you and wanted to see if it is the case

looks like she was correct based on your reaction

What reaction? I gave no reaction, and carried on with my day.

 

[Bigpapa]

What reaction? I gave no reaction, and carried on with my day.

and opened a thread about this here haha

look man, I am not making fun of you or stuff like that. Just trying to be helpful

but if you got buthurt enough to open a thread here, most likely you also gave away non verbal hints that you are buthurt to her

most likely initially she mentioned something about the age gap and saw you changing and then started digging till said something a bit more aggressive to gauge your reaction

maybe you should learn to be a bit more relaxed in a relationship and learn how to deflect things like this properly by exaggerating for example

her ; the age gap is so big
You : what can I do, girls just like big penis older guys
Her : haha
You : winking devilish

 

[soulforge]

and opened a thread about this here haha

look man, I am not making fun of you or stuff like that. Just trying to be helpful

but if you got buthurt enough to open a thread here, most likely you also gave away non verbal hints that you are buthurt to her

most likely initially she mentioned something about the age gap and saw you changing and then started digging till said something a bit more aggressive to gauge your reaction

maybe you should learn to be a bit more relaxed in a relationship and learn how to deflect things like this properly by exaggerating for example

her ; the age gap is so big
You : what can I do, girls just like big penis older guys
Her : haha
You : winking devilish

Dude you really need to go back to school and learn to read (no offense) but your living in clown world right now.

Be a good boy and read my opening thread.

This was a GENERAL thread about, how people treat covert & overt disrespect. And how to identify the difference.

Not about me. Just a general thing.

My personal tack is just to laugh the little things off and usually roast her a little.

Obviously when it comes to real disrespect I take a much tougher approach.

This was a general conversation about how others deal with these types of situations.

My man I hope you learn to read better. I will pray for you.

 

[soulforge]

and opened a thread about this here haha

look man, I am not making fun of you or stuff like that. Just trying to be helpful

but if you got buthurt enough to open a thread here, most likely you also gave away non verbal hints that you are buthurt to her

most likely initially she mentioned something about the age gap and saw you changing and then started digging till said something a bit more aggressive to gauge your reaction

maybe you should learn to be a bit more relaxed in a relationship and learn how to deflect things like this properly by exaggerating for example

her ; the age gap is so big
You : what can I do, girls just like big penis older guys
Her : haha
You : winking devilish

Dude want to know my reaction to the age gap thing? Hopefully this might satisfy you.

First off all she didn't say squat about the age gap, so your kinda not making any sense dude, again maybe struggling with reading like I pointed out earlier.

We walked past an elderly persons nursing home & she joked about me moving in there.

How did I react? My words exactly.

Laughed about it, followed by.. Hey it's not a bad thing, cooked meals & chilling all day, and you can come over daily & suck my dik off. The perfect life.

 

[Bigpapa]

Dude you really need to go back to school and learn to read (no offense) but your living in clown world right now.

Be a good boy and read my opening thread.

This was a GENERAL thread about, how people treat covert & overt disrespect. And how to identify the difference.

Not about me. Just a general thing.

My personal tack is just to laugh the little things off and usually roast her a little.

Obviously when it comes to real disrespect I take a much tougher approach.

This was a general conversation about how others deal with these types of situations.

My man I hope you learn to read better. I will pray for you.

for sure, you going overboard like this makes a lot of sense too

If I learn how to read from your point of view, I hope that you learn to chill from my end

best of luck

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Thats the car that fits you better while pointing a crappy car ---> yeah the best I could drive when I come to pick you up

That crappy house with crappy furnitures seems made for you ---> more like the one of the men that you will finally settle with

Very important, dont be angry or annoyed when you say it, smile and HAVE FUN to troll them scientifically.

That time it will be her to get angry and you can make fun of her for being so sensitive.

Me personally, the harsh the disrespect I get, the harder I laught at them with the come backs.

See it as an opportunity for letting your inner bastard be free.

 

[member162951]

There's playful joking, teasing and bantering but that’s NOT what this is. They are insults "disguised" as jokes in an attempt to knock you down and make herself seem superior. They're mean, period.

When this happens, flip the script and respond "well what does it say about YOU that you're dating me? Way worse I assure you."

Then LEAVE, it's borderline mental abuse imo, nothing at all to do with teasing, joking or bantering.

 

[soulforge]

Guys I am not saying that mockery like this, shouldn't be taken with a pinch of salt & we simply roast her right back... I tend to roast the chit out of them myself right back.

I am just saying, that some girls will be playful with it & the sinister biches will use this type of mockery so they can escalate even further to serious disrespect.

I am just saying we should be wary of shyte like this.

 

[soulforge]

This type of mockery is passive aggressive, where she can always revert to 'I was just joking', but you can also just tell her that you thought she had a sense of humour, but apparently she doesn't, so this is goodbye. And just walk away.

I agree with that. I simply made this thread to make guys aware that you will get two types of girls.

The one who will genuinely tease a little and be playful, no harm or foul intended.

And then the other girl, who will disguise mockery in the form of a (joke humour) to belittle you & more importantly to test how much she can get away with down the line.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I was looking at buying a new car recently & I recall going for a walk with my ex & she saw this really pathetic looking car parked up, & it looked all bent out of shape & old fashioned. She giggled & said

"Oh that's the kind of car that will suit you"

Agree and amplify.

Yes! This sh!tbox will be perfect for when I come around to pick you up from your ghetto area.

 

[Bokanovsky]

It's a difficult one, as that mockery is a fine line between actual mockery and disrespect.

I will give you examples with my ex.

01. Pointed at a terrible looking car & said that's the car that would suit me.

02. Walked past an apartment & through the apartment window, we could see some really bad looking furniture, like an old arm chair, said that's the perfect furniture for someone like you.

03. I put a little weight on, kept pointing at my belly and called me fatty once or twice lol (I'm super ripped now)

04. Seen my gym picture & said I didn't look like a strong man (this was early days of dating)

05. I'm quite alot older than her, walked past a elderly persons nursing home, said I should go live there haha

I don't know if this is really "disrespectful" or simply annoying. She might have an overly sarcastic personality and could be trying to get a rise out if you (especially if you react in a humourless/offended manner).

Have you ever tried returning the favour? I.e. walking past a homeless man, tell her that he looks like a perfect husband for her. Or if you see some street walkers, ask her if they are her colleagues.

At the end of the day, if her personality annoys you, it's best to end things regardless.

 

[soulforge]

I don't know if this is really "disrespectful" or simply annoying. She might have an overly sarcastic personality and could be trying to get a rise out if you (especially if you react in a humourless/offended manner).

Have you ever tried returning the favour? I.e. walking past a homeless man, tell her that he looks like a perfect husband for her. Or if you see some street walkers, ask her if they are her colleagues.

At the end of the day, if her personality annoys you, it's best to end things regardless.

Hell yeah. I roast them right back, I'm just staying sometimes this kinda mockery could be light hearted fun, but some chicks will try this kind of thing to test the water, so she can be more Disrespectful down the line.

 

[soulforge]

Agree and amplify.

Yes! This sh!tbox will be perfect for when I come around to pick you up from your ghetto area.

That's a good one haha.

That one she said to me about belonging in a old persons nursing home..

My response to that.. Yeh sounds the good life to me, cooked meals, I can chill all day, you can come over, suck my dik daily, then get your azz back home lol