The difference between a master DJ and a new DJ

[Zerotwoonenine]

I was on the bus today, going home from dropping some cds off at a a girl's place, she is a HB9, i knew she wasnt home, yet i still went to her house and droped them, why has this got to do with master DJing you may ask? this action has everything to do with it, a year ago i was a AFC, and i knew and chased this girl for around 4 years now, i decided to drop her after high school, but i couldnt. After reading tips from this site i went back to her and now we are still friends. I got on the bus after droping the cds and started thinking about being a DJ, then it suddenly hit home-being a master DJ means being able to let go, to walk away, to move on, and this is one of the biggest differences between a master DJ and a New DJ, the master can move on and let go because he knows he can just go out and find another HB9 if he fails with this one, the New DJ? he gets hooked with this HB9, he is so obsessed with her that he frogets everything he has learnt from this site, she is giving all the signals that she doesnt like him, yet he doesnt move on-why? because he is afraid of failure, because he thinks he can never get another chance of know a girl like her.
My new DJs, its time to let go, how many times have i read in this forum"i am stil friends with her, i cant get over her...etc", friends, you must realise, to improve, you must know how to move on.
Goodluck To All Of You Out There

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

The REAL difference between a Rafc and a fully developped Don Juan is this:

The Rafc is constantly thinking in terms of tactics, patterns, kino, C&F... it's almost like a game of chess. They fail more than they succeed, because of this tactics-based method of picking up chicks.

The fully developed Don Juan never thinks once about using a trick, or a tactic. He has become so well attuned, that every decision he makes is natural and totally congruent with who he is. He attracts women without ever really trying.

 

[GuitarOnFire]

It's been said before, but I think a real Don Juan can let any girl go and walk away from any situation that is not in his best interests.

 

[I love Hyori Lee]

The only difference between the Master DJ and the New DJ is experience.

With experience, the New DJ will eventually grow to become the master.

 

[poohead]

there are always 2 - a master, and an apprentice....

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

how many of you master DJs have actually had a wingman tagging along and learn??

 

[PRMoon]

how many of you master DJs have actually had a wingman tagging along and learn??

The only training I attepmt is on the site. In field everything moves alot faster so I don't have time to teach or train anyone. If i'm out to game I'm out to maximize the chances of sucess in the situation. Often that means (If i'm with some one without experience) I'll carry the team if I need to. More often then not though I'll play the field with some one who is at least confident in their abilities and experienced in their own right.

 

[BrotherAP]

how many of you master DJs have actually had a wingman tagging along and learn??

Life just doesn't work that way. The reason this message board represents a subculture is because we've made a decision to improve ourselves through extensive analysis and practice, whereas most people prefer to let these kinds of things develop 'naturally' - there's a pervasive stigma that these things can't be taught and that you either have the capacity or you don't. Challenging this and offering to teach somebody the way we've tried to learn actually offends most people. The subtext of such an offer is that they in fact don't 'have it', and suggests that it can be learned artificially. In fact, in all the experience I've had that has changed me in anyway, it all seems in indirect result of my actions. The techniques I read were never internalized so much as developed over time from the sheer amount of effort I put into socializing and advancing. In the end, this website teaches us to make ourselves the same way anyone makes himself - by developing the skills naturally. That is the end goal of any aspiring 'Don Juan', to completely naturalize the whole process.

That said, I've taught many people through example and positive influence. I don't weed my friends by percieved status or value, instead I value traits like loyalty and sincerity and pressure them to improve by setting a standard for them to live up to. I openly encourage improvement when I see it without pushing for it more than is normal. That's the way to have real positive influence on people around you, by letting them see what they can become while respecting their desire to feel like they disovered it themselves.

That said, I do not consider myself to be a master Don Juan, and I never will. One of the most important realizations I've had is that there will always be room for improvement. A man is never great because he's 'made it', he's great because he's still trying to 'make it'. The day you think you've made it is the day you start regressing.