The deciding factor...?

[mackdaddy27]

What do you tihnk is the deciding factor , that makes a girl decide to give a guy a first date or not?

what things can you do , from the time you get the number, to when you ask her out, to increase your chances of success..


Girls give out their numbers all the time, so thats easy but the next stage, is a bit more tricky...

 

[rjames407]

Getting the number is IMPORTANT for obvious reasons, but the way in which you get the number is probably more important. You must demonstrate that you are assertive - dont ask if you can go out with the girl, be decisive and say something like 'What is your number, it has been good chatting to you, we should go for a drink some time'! This will hopefully get you a number that you can actually use as opposed to a fake one.

In terms of getting her interest level higher, the best thing to do is wait. Be a challenge and be patient. If she liked you in the first place then by 'playing hard to get' to use an old phrase, will pay dividends. She will be wondering what you are doing. Maybe wait between 4-6 days before contacting her. The first date should be a week night, because you are always 'busy' at the weekends doing other 'fun' things!

When on the date you have to have FUN, be a bit c*cky, bust on her, make fun of her. If you decide to go for the kiss then go for it! Always be the first to suggest to leave and leave her 'hanging' and wondering whether you like her or not.

Its all about, challenge and keeping her interested by not giving too much away!

Hope this helps

 

[DonJuan11]

What do you tihnk is the deciding factor , that makes a girl decide to give a guy a first date or not?

She has to have a REASON to go out with you. Girls don't go on dinner dates, movie dates for the dinner or the movie, they are there with you because you can offer something that others can't.

Do you make her laugh?
Do you give her strong powerful emotions?
Do you cook like a chef?
Do you make love like James Bond?
Do you give her a thrill, an adventure, the time of her life?

Alot of guys on here are so focused on getting the number from the girl that they forget its about what you can do for her after. "Awesome guys, I got the number! Oh damn, now I have to phone her and entertain her and risk rejection!" Anything you experience in life should be done without a women, so when you do meet one, she'll be so enamored with your life and stories she'll never leave.

 

[mackdaddy27]

Getting the number is IMPORTANT for obvious reasons, but the way in which you get the number is probably more important. You must demonstrate that you are assertive - dont ask if you can go out with the girl, be decisive and say something like 'What is your number, it has been good chatting to you, we should go for a drink some time'! This will hopefully get you a number that you can actually use as opposed to a fake one.

In terms of getting her interest level higher, the best thing to do is wait. Be a challenge and be patient. If she liked you in the first place then by 'playing hard to get' to use an old phrase, will pay dividends. She will be wondering what you are doing. Maybe wait between 4-6 days before contacting her. The first date should be a week night, because you are always 'busy' at the weekends doing other 'fun' things!

When on the date you have to have FUN, be a bit c*cky, bust on her, make fun of her. If you decide to go for the kiss then go for it! Always be the first to suggest to leave and leave her 'hanging' and wondering whether you like her or not.

Its all about, challenge and keeping her interested by not giving too much away!

Hope this helps

nice , you play by the book it seems. I guess from your post I can assert two things:

1) YOU should wait a few days before calling her

2) Game her well on the phone ( be a challenge , role reversal , frame etc)

3) Get the number liike you mean it

4) Make sure you have fun during the Date !

 

[mackdaddy27]

She has to have a REASON to go out with you. Girls don't go on dinner dates, movie dates for the dinner or the movie, they are there with you because you can offer something that others can't.

Do you make her laugh?
Do you give her strong powerful emotions?
Do you cook like a chef?
Do you make love like James Bond?
Do you give her a thrill, an adventure, the time of her life?

Alot of guys on here are so focused on getting the number from the girl that they forget its about what you can do for her after. "Awesome guys, I got the number! Oh damn, now I have to phone her and entertain her and risk rejection!" Anything you experience in life should be done without a women, so when you do meet one, she'll be so enamored with your life and stories she'll never leave.

First of all, I have to agree with you that the frame needs to be one of "I am the one whose giving you the chance and show me what you have to offer"...If you try to think what you offer her, vs what she has to offer you that sets the frame better


Though, I like this tangent where you are saying that emotionality is the KeY to getting her to go out with you. Care to elaborate?