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I touched upon this topic in another thread but it definitely deserves it's own.
Dating is like any other economic market (with the average life span of 85 years or so, longer if you take of yourself, we are "durable goods." rather than consummables like gas or food), where the highest quality resources command the highest prices and are off the market first. Also, the highest quality "goods" stay off the market once they're acquired.
The lower quality goods are far more abundant. You'll see far more "listings" initially, and they stay on the market often for extended periods. Sometimes, steep discounts are required to get them off market. The lowest quality listings stay on the market for a loooong time.
How to define "quality"? SMV. This consists of both personality as well as appearance. A stripper who is a "10" in appearance may actually be a 5 or even lower overall due to her dishonesty, drug abuse, and sociopathic personality. In this extreme case, a stripper may be on and off the market every hour or even every 15 minutes!
This means that the highest caliber women (looks+personality) are basically off the market as soon as legally possible, typically late teens or early 20's in more traditional cultures, and mid 20's at latest in countries where women go to college and work.These girls DO NOT sleep around, focusing on a very low number of steady boyfriends. Unless you meet these girls VERY early on, such as in high school or at latest just out of college, you are fresh out of luck.
A FEW of these highest quality girls will remain in the dating pool if they've gone to graduate school, but the percentage of single high quality women drops drastically after their early 20's since they are all snatched up so quickly.
So what are viable strategies?
1. stay in a small suburban market (biggoal). If you are looking for or trying to date reasonably attractive women who are 25 to 27 outside of a huge metro area, you might as well be fighting to the death. You are going to have enormous problems finding quality women.
2. move to a major metro area. You would think that this would solve your problems right? Not necessarily. Many major metro areas are now focused on tech. This means a huge male/female imbalance in many cases. Also, these markets have huge economic gaps between the rich and poor. This means that the wealthiest guys can sometimes hoard the highest quality women. It can also alter the mentality of women who can be overwhelmed with offers not only online but IRL as well. SF is a prime example where ALL of the factors mentioned above come into play.
3. boost your SMV. This is smart as it's something that's totally under your control and benefits you regardless of where you move or live.
4. participate in activities where high quality women are abundant. A longer discussion, best left for a separate thread.
5. live in cities with an abundance of young adult women.
6. Combine 3, 4 and 5!
One more word of caution: single attractive women 25+ are starting to become emotionally hardened. They are so much less friendly than women in their late teens and early 20's it's startling. I think it's because they are just about to exit their prime and are becoming laser focused on entering into a "serious" relationship since they see so many of their peers doing the same. The sense of playfulness and kindness can literally disappear over night at that age.
If you are dating in the 25+ age pool, expect lots of problems. Aside from becoming extremely selective, these women are more likely to have had at least one and possibly several painful breakups and may even have faced painful rejections as well, so they could be on the verge of becoming emotionally unpredictable or even outright hostile.
Good luck it's getting tougher. And this is not even mentioning masking, social distancing, vaxx cards and all of the other artificial hoops and barriers since 2020.
Dating is like any other economic market (with the average life span of 85 years or so, longer if you take of yourself, we are "durable goods." rather than consummables like gas or food), where the highest quality resources command the highest prices and are off the market first. Also, the highest quality "goods" stay off the market once they're acquired.
The lower quality goods are far more abundant. You'll see far more "listings" initially, and they stay on the market often for extended periods. Sometimes, steep discounts are required to get them off market. The lowest quality listings stay on the market for a loooong time.
How to define "quality"? SMV. This consists of both personality as well as appearance. A stripper who is a "10" in appearance may actually be a 5 or even lower overall due to her dishonesty, drug abuse, and sociopathic personality. In this extreme case, a stripper may be on and off the market every hour or even every 15 minutes!
This means that the highest caliber women (looks+personality) are basically off the market as soon as legally possible, typically late teens or early 20's in more traditional cultures, and mid 20's at latest in countries where women go to college and work.These girls DO NOT sleep around, focusing on a very low number of steady boyfriends. Unless you meet these girls VERY early on, such as in high school or at latest just out of college, you are fresh out of luck.
A FEW of these highest quality girls will remain in the dating pool if they've gone to graduate school, but the percentage of single high quality women drops drastically after their early 20's since they are all snatched up so quickly.
So what are viable strategies?
1. stay in a small suburban market (biggoal). If you are looking for or trying to date reasonably attractive women who are 25 to 27 outside of a huge metro area, you might as well be fighting to the death. You are going to have enormous problems finding quality women.
2. move to a major metro area. You would think that this would solve your problems right? Not necessarily. Many major metro areas are now focused on tech. This means a huge male/female imbalance in many cases. Also, these markets have huge economic gaps between the rich and poor. This means that the wealthiest guys can sometimes hoard the highest quality women. It can also alter the mentality of women who can be overwhelmed with offers not only online but IRL as well. SF is a prime example where ALL of the factors mentioned above come into play.
3. boost your SMV. This is smart as it's something that's totally under your control and benefits you regardless of where you move or live.
4. participate in activities where high quality women are abundant. A longer discussion, best left for a separate thread.
5. live in cities with an abundance of young adult women.
6. Combine 3, 4 and 5!
One more word of caution: single attractive women 25+ are starting to become emotionally hardened. They are so much less friendly than women in their late teens and early 20's it's startling. I think it's because they are just about to exit their prime and are becoming laser focused on entering into a "serious" relationship since they see so many of their peers doing the same. The sense of playfulness and kindness can literally disappear over night at that age.
If you are dating in the 25+ age pool, expect lots of problems. Aside from becoming extremely selective, these women are more likely to have had at least one and possibly several painful breakups and may even have faced painful rejections as well, so they could be on the verge of becoming emotionally unpredictable or even outright hostile.
Good luck it's getting tougher. And this is not even mentioning masking, social distancing, vaxx cards and all of the other artificial hoops and barriers since 2020.
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