the Crazy/random girl...And must it be the coffee shop.

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Alrite there is this one chick, who i have alot of interest for. My classes just started, and we were put into some group for a project. Luckily, she is in my group, I managed to solo her out and we talked for a lil. She is that free spirit type, and always laughing,makin jokes,etc. Im the exact same personality as her, always joinkg, and just about never serious. I've built a pretty good rapport, as ive seen her twice on campus and was just myself, and cracked a joke or said something really silly. I wanna ask her out to somewhere next time we meet(class is 3x a week) The way im feeling about approachin, is just going right up to her, and saying " lets go to the ______ right now,cmon!". Only thing is, i usually dont drink coffee, and I've been to starbucks only 2 times in my life( 1 was to go to the bathroom.lol.) Also, as being the same type of personality, i think im lingering near to her friend zone. Im not exactly sure, what the next step should be here, ask for her phone number? just need a little mentoring...

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

if you are going to go on a meeting with a girl, go do a action date my friend, if you want to know why, go read my thread, Don Juans are birds, and why women want them in their cage. It will explain a lot to you buddy.

 

[Mister Big]

The next time you see her, talk to her, and get her to laugh. Then immediately ask her out. Identify something you'll feel comfortable doing beforehand (Starbucks is like going to the doctor's office for setting the mood) that you think she'd feel good about. Try something fun, short and sweet, where you can talk a bit, but not spend a lot of money. The adventure date is a good idea, but you may have a better one. Keep it fun and simple.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Alrite. Will asking "do you wanna go some where later, i'll let it be your choice" sound chumpish? also, is asking for a date, that following weekend, chumpish as well? Thanks for the replies guys, but im still uncertain of where to go. Im feeling most comfortable with the movies or the beach.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

nice lecutre eater. Im still unsure by what you mean in action dates though, pretty much dates where you dont sit down?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by gimmeyofonenumba
Alrite. Will asking "do you wanna go some where later, i'll let it be your choice" sound chumpish? also, is asking for a date, that following weekend, chumpish as well? Thanks for the replies guys, but im still uncertain of where to go. Im feeling most comfortable with the movies or the beach.

I strongly suggest you don't use that line to ask her out. That line just smells of lack of confidence.

Just tell her you're going somewhere and would like her to come. Don't ask her what she wants. Deep down inside, most women want the man to take charge and make the decisions.

 

[aftershock]

"Action date" covers climbing Everest to walking in the park.

If your any good at pool, bowling, etc take her there. You can also tease her if shes not any good, etc. Good for asking her out too - "I'm going to shoot pool, fancy coming along?".

Theres plenty of threads on action dates, do a search.



That line asking her out is awful, too. Again, do a search.

The reason why it's bad? You are giving her a choice, and therefore giving her power, and you know what happens when you give women power. And it stinks of unconfidence.