"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The crackdown on teen posters in here has begun!

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Originally posted by DJDamage
I think if a woman has proven herself to be "mature" in giving feedback in other posts, there should not be a problem in her posting here . "Penkitten" can stay. She has knowledge of the DJ Bible.

:cheer:

i actually like the mature forum alot. you dont see alot of threads in here that make no sense.
i agree that there is a big difference in objectives between age.
perhaps there should be one called senior forum for folks that are over 30, because they have already been there and done that compared to most 20 year olds. however, i just cant see them adding another forum in here because this one is doing ok but isnt as much traffic as one may assume.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I wanted to add this, I said let the chicks speak b/c they usually hang themselves, NOT b/c I take female advice on women.

If they were to be banished from in here it wouldn't bother me. But it's almost a non issue for me personally, b/c they usually hang themselves in disputes, as I said, thus further reaffirming what I knew.
 

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My final post in the mature man's forum

This is apparently up because of me so I'll leave this as my last posts in this forum and leave my thoughts on this forum as well. Mods please do not delete.

I will not apologize for "breaking the rules" and posting in my favorite forum that makes me come back.

1.) Apparently I did not realize that maturity was age determinate. It is more of a mindstate and how you lived your life.

Plus the median age group of my friends is 35. I hear about a lot of the problems that married and single guys in your age bracket have. I give them advice from this forum.

2.) This forum was a wonderful addition and I learn something new in it each day. My mindset has changed dramatically from this forums opening until now.

3.) I have made many friends on this forum that are not based around "how much pvssy can I get this weekend?" or the infamous question of "Does she like me?"

These are the types of people that I can get in deep thought provoking conversations with about deeper aspects of the game or just shoot the breeze about philosophy, politics (not on this forum), sports,

4.) Less flaming on this forum

5.) I have not given any advice on how to deal with married chicks or other things. I have only posted on things that I have either dealt with or have a knowledge about.

6.) My posts always mention that I am 18.

7.) Personally since the people are mature here, mature topics can be discussed, and it compells me to look at it because I am past the phase of "I want booze"

8.) Personally I didn't think that my posts were doing any damage to this forum but apparently they are damaging.

Oh well, if there is any more thoughts then I guess I'll get out of here.
 

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i really dont think they were referring to you , just a "in general" thing for other guys who were posting a bunch of crap. most of it got deleted right away or moved to the mods corner.

honestly, i thought you were like 24 or 25. you sound very mature in your threads and replies and i havent ever seen you do anything but steer guys to do mature things.

has anyone actually said "dude dont post here again"?
 

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my posts were hunted down and deleted by mods in this forum (I'm not bagging on any of the mods). Just saying why I am coming to this conclusion.

When asked why he sent me a very short PM saying that I am too young for this board.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i see.
then they really did crack down on the underage bit.

if anyone cares, i really think that comic really does make alot of mature comments on his threads and one day will be a very well known guy in here.
 

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Quote : penkitten
if anyone cares, i really think that comic really does make alot of mature comments on his threads and one day will be a very well known guy in here

i agree comic_relief is a young man with a bright future


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

" stop being insecure " i hate that saying. it's a cop out for not having enough balls to confront a woman about what she is doing THAT IS WRONG or potentially damaging to a long term relationship. – Lost In Translation
 

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This forum is really amusing. Why are Americans so obsessed about age? There are some 15 year olds who are more mature than many 40 year olds. Personally, I could care less if you are 90 or 15. Let a person's post determine how mature he is.
 

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Originally posted by LittleElf
This forum is really amusing. Why are Americans so obsessed about age? There are some 15 year olds who are more mature than many 40 year olds. Personally, I could care less if you are 90 or 15. Let a person's post determine how mature he is.
thats true elf
the thing about this one spot on here is that some of the older djs want to hear from others who have experienced something to the same degree of what they are going for and not all the younger members have. some of them have experienced alot more than we give them credit for. the majority want a place to be able to relate. thats why they are cracking down. i hate to loose comic relief here because he is very mature and gives advise he thinks others can use.this is the only board that has the least flamebaiting and the most helpful disscussions going on for most of us that continue to post here.
 

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The name is LittleElf...not Elf. :rolleyes: Please think of me as the kind of elf that wears pointy green shoes.

It just seems to me that maturity can't and shouldn't be based on age alone. For example, I find teenage girls in Europe (just not Eastern Europe) to be much more mature than your typical 40 year old American woman. They are classy, quiet, polite, and can hold a conversation about something other than themselves. Something that can't be said for your typical 40 year old American woman.

By the way, how do we really know who is what age on here? Oh, I forgot, people don't lie on the Internet. ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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