"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The cost of convenience

jhonny9546

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Grocery shopping has become automated.
With Amazon and other online stores, just press a button and your groceries arrive at home.
No more time wasted in the car, no lines, no asking where the salt is, no seeing the cashier.
Work is the same. Working from home is comfortable and efficient, no commute, no pollution.
But you lose the casual encounters: no chatting with those girls at the café, no lunch with colleagues, only Skype calls.


The more our lives get automated, the more convenient they become, giving us time for other things.
But have you noticed how in those daily inconveniences, random but important interactions happen, interactions that help us build our social and flirting skills?
I’ve always thought convenience makes us less capable.
Phones, meant to connect us, have ironically weakened our ability to truly read and engage with others.
Navigators, such as GPS interactive maps, made us stupid at orientation without a smartphone.


We can lose so much if we give automation the wrong things to automate.
I would automate grocery shopping, but once a month, doing invetory of everything I would need for my family on a specific day..
Still, I will go the other 3 or 4 times because I phisically need that.

So, are you for or against automated grocery shopping?
How would you use "convenience" without getting crapped?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

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