"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the core of the AFC

pipe007

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quick realization i've had
a real AFC will be the one who will continue to respond emotionally, physically, cognitively, or behaviorally to a girl who is not showing signs of high interest, or to a girl that is ambivalent and does not show clear signs of constant interest.

put it another way. if you continue to reply, text, call, or go out with a girl who is not making an effort in showing high interest ( or interest), then you are communicating to her that you are an AFC, and that you are willing to put up with her B.S.

so if say you have tried to go out with her a couple times, and you have tried to kiss her, and she has backed down, or moved her head to the side, like stopping you, but she continues to call you and wanting to see you. this is ambivalent behavior. If you continue to reward her with your attention after she declines from kissing you, then you are an AFC.

if you repeatedly make plans with a girl to go out, and she continues to cancel or flake on you at times, and at other times she will go out with you... ON HER TERMS, and if you continue to go out with her, you are an AFC.

any variations basically means the girl has no real emotional or sexual interest in you, and she is just toying with you whenever she feels like it, or until the better deal comes along... you are an AFC.

let's say you continue to date a girl in hopes to get into a relationship with her, and she is not bringing the topic. You bring up the topic about being exclusive, and she says she is not ready, that you guys should be friends first, that OR THAT SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HURT YOU!!! (omg the worse) and you continue to date her, then YOU ARE AN afc!!!

bottom line is:
AFC's reward and reinforce a girl's lack of interest by continuing to show attention, affection, and admiration inspite her lack of interest.

a real man: inmediately punishes lack of interest, by showing indifference, withdrawing, nexting, or makin her prove to you that she really likes you, other wise, no thank you, you are not interested.

so i guess this is a continuum from (helpless to having power and choice)
when you punish and withdraw your attention at the sign of lack of interest, when you next them, when you push them away (emotionally), they REACT it causes attraction!!!!, when you reward them, it causes them to withdraw even more....

of course you have to take into account the beginning stages of attraction. at first, you are going to have the proactive one, the one with the wit, the confidence, the jokes, the push and pull blablablabla, after you have "tried your best," and she shows no sign of intererest, then this applies.

but if you start talking to a girl, or go out with her for the first or second time (and she shows no sign of real attraction) then sometimes that's ok, ive had girls become attracted to me, or showing it, starting the third or fourth date.

i would say, if you are not sure, give it at least three or four dates maximun. if no progress is made... move on!!!!!!!!!! or you are in AFC.. land!!!!

where do you fall in this continuum?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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for the longest time i was basically both. i would show too much affection early on but also did not hesitate to withdraw at the drop of a hat.

i guess you could call me an afc hybrid
 

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i think its ok to show a reasonable degree of interest on your part, and some kino (affection) early on, but ONLY if its comming from a place of power, dominance, and protectiveness, and ONLY if she shows high indicators of interest.

other wise, its a very bad bad move.
 
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