LONG POST.
I'll go out on a limb and say that alot of guys are turning to all of these methods and tricks, which in themselves have a purpose but are generally misused, are because of rebellion against their parents.
For the most part it is due to the fact that what we learned growing up has generally NOT WORKED IN THE REAL WORLD.
All of those stories about Jesus, the Little Engine that Could, all of these things had NO APPLICATION IN THE REAL WORLD.
When it came to standing up for yourself, and BEING WHO YOU WERE BORN TO BE, these things did nothing to help.
What we learned from our mother, all of this "gentleman" stuff, had no results.
UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARENTS, THE CONFLICTED MALE
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Everything they say comes from what happened to them in life. Everything they do is because of years and years on this earth, and the conditioning that they have had from THEIR parents and THEIR environment. This is true 99% of the time.
Your father was never there setting an example for you, BECAUSE HIS FATHER WASN'T. However, your father turned out okay, so HE PRESUMES THAT YOU WOULD BE TOO, WITHOUT EVEN THINKING IT. HE WAS BROUGHT UP IN A WORLD OF BLIND OBEDIENCE, AND EXPECTS THIS, WITHOUT EVEN THINKING IT.
Your mother tells you to be oh so nice to women, BECAUSE SHE HERSELF WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BY A BAD PERSON. It is the job of mothers to prevent these "bad" types from existing. She does what any mother would do in this situation-- and that is baby her son. Confide in him. Bring him up tenderly, not like those "rough types" that abuse women. HOWEVER, IT IS PRECISELY THIS TYPE OF CONFLICTED BEGINNINGS THAT MAKE THE "ROUGH TYPES."
What happens, EVERYTHING IS GIVEN TO US. WITHOUT A MALE ROLE MODEL AND WITH AN INADEQUATE FEMALE PERSPECTIVE OF A MAN'S LIFE, we turn to everything else to impart this: Drugs. Womanizing. Homosexuality. Asexuality. Music. Acting. Sosuave.com posts. Blatant animalism(**** everything that walks).
The only way to get to the next level of our developement is to give it all up and return back to that place where we went wrong: OUR PARENTS.
As physically grown men, WE NEVER GOT PAST THE POINT WHERE WE DIDN'T GET WHAT WE NEEDED FROM OUR PARENTS. In many ways a small child we still are. And we pile all of this nonsense theories on top of that, and what do we get? THE CONFLICTED MALE!
Not quite sure how to treat women, because with a frail mother, and a nonexistent father example, we don't know what to make of sex! We don't know how to treat other men, because it is "NOT NICE" to be a man!
Several steps to remedy this problem in a healthy way.
1. Go back to your parents and tie the untied knot. Forgive and become a student.
You have to tell them where things went wrong. You have to tell them how your life is and the conditions of your childhood. Chances are, your parents have TONS of UNTAPPED KNOWLEDGE about life, but never got a chance to give that to you, because we turned away from them.
My father is the biggest pimp I know. He is aware of the female sexuality in ways I can only dream of. In fact he knows that female sexuality is triggered mainly by PHYSICAL MEANS, and not by MENTAL MEANS. Women are by nature perpetually horny, and only need to be given a "acceptable opportunity" to let that loose. Sex problem solved.
2. Your parent child relationship is totally different/maintain your life
Your parents by their own experience will try to DICTATE you to teach you life lessons. As an adult or near adult, this isn't healthy. You are not physically a child anymore, and must refuse to be treated like one. Demand your own life, yet be able to learn from them.
3. There are no "hurdles" in life.
Things aren't the way you want them because you yourself aren't the way you want to be. Your parents see this as laziness, defiance, etc. But this is because you have had NO EXAMPLE of positive attitudes in childhood. There is no motivation because YOU GOT WHERE YOU ARE BY NO MOTIVATION. In some ways, there are invisible conflicts in our lives THAT ARE ONLY AN EXTENSION OF THE CONFLICTS IN OURSELVES. We can achieve this from experience and an online post, or we can go back to our parents and learn from their example. We make these invisible blocks from our own internal problem.
I'll go out on a limb and say that alot of guys are turning to all of these methods and tricks, which in themselves have a purpose but are generally misused, are because of rebellion against their parents.
For the most part it is due to the fact that what we learned growing up has generally NOT WORKED IN THE REAL WORLD.
All of those stories about Jesus, the Little Engine that Could, all of these things had NO APPLICATION IN THE REAL WORLD.
When it came to standing up for yourself, and BEING WHO YOU WERE BORN TO BE, these things did nothing to help.
What we learned from our mother, all of this "gentleman" stuff, had no results.
UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARENTS, THE CONFLICTED MALE
-------------------------------
Everything they say comes from what happened to them in life. Everything they do is because of years and years on this earth, and the conditioning that they have had from THEIR parents and THEIR environment. This is true 99% of the time.
Your father was never there setting an example for you, BECAUSE HIS FATHER WASN'T. However, your father turned out okay, so HE PRESUMES THAT YOU WOULD BE TOO, WITHOUT EVEN THINKING IT. HE WAS BROUGHT UP IN A WORLD OF BLIND OBEDIENCE, AND EXPECTS THIS, WITHOUT EVEN THINKING IT.
Your mother tells you to be oh so nice to women, BECAUSE SHE HERSELF WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BY A BAD PERSON. It is the job of mothers to prevent these "bad" types from existing. She does what any mother would do in this situation-- and that is baby her son. Confide in him. Bring him up tenderly, not like those "rough types" that abuse women. HOWEVER, IT IS PRECISELY THIS TYPE OF CONFLICTED BEGINNINGS THAT MAKE THE "ROUGH TYPES."
What happens, EVERYTHING IS GIVEN TO US. WITHOUT A MALE ROLE MODEL AND WITH AN INADEQUATE FEMALE PERSPECTIVE OF A MAN'S LIFE, we turn to everything else to impart this: Drugs. Womanizing. Homosexuality. Asexuality. Music. Acting. Sosuave.com posts. Blatant animalism(**** everything that walks).
The only way to get to the next level of our developement is to give it all up and return back to that place where we went wrong: OUR PARENTS.
As physically grown men, WE NEVER GOT PAST THE POINT WHERE WE DIDN'T GET WHAT WE NEEDED FROM OUR PARENTS. In many ways a small child we still are. And we pile all of this nonsense theories on top of that, and what do we get? THE CONFLICTED MALE!
Not quite sure how to treat women, because with a frail mother, and a nonexistent father example, we don't know what to make of sex! We don't know how to treat other men, because it is "NOT NICE" to be a man!
Several steps to remedy this problem in a healthy way.
1. Go back to your parents and tie the untied knot. Forgive and become a student.
You have to tell them where things went wrong. You have to tell them how your life is and the conditions of your childhood. Chances are, your parents have TONS of UNTAPPED KNOWLEDGE about life, but never got a chance to give that to you, because we turned away from them.
My father is the biggest pimp I know. He is aware of the female sexuality in ways I can only dream of. In fact he knows that female sexuality is triggered mainly by PHYSICAL MEANS, and not by MENTAL MEANS. Women are by nature perpetually horny, and only need to be given a "acceptable opportunity" to let that loose. Sex problem solved.
2. Your parent child relationship is totally different/maintain your life
Your parents by their own experience will try to DICTATE you to teach you life lessons. As an adult or near adult, this isn't healthy. You are not physically a child anymore, and must refuse to be treated like one. Demand your own life, yet be able to learn from them.
3. There are no "hurdles" in life.
Things aren't the way you want them because you yourself aren't the way you want to be. Your parents see this as laziness, defiance, etc. But this is because you have had NO EXAMPLE of positive attitudes in childhood. There is no motivation because YOU GOT WHERE YOU ARE BY NO MOTIVATION. In some ways, there are invisible conflicts in our lives THAT ARE ONLY AN EXTENSION OF THE CONFLICTS IN OURSELVES. We can achieve this from experience and an online post, or we can go back to our parents and learn from their example. We make these invisible blocks from our own internal problem.
