"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The conflict between being focus vs having fun

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Guitar_Whizz

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Something that I've been thinking about a lot lately....

Is it possible to be focused on your goals, yet still have fun?

Is it possible to kick back and have fun, yet still be focused on your goals?

I'm having trouble with this....during times I'm focused on goals, I'm more serious and don't party or drink as much. Yet during times when I 'let my hair' down and enjoy myself, I feel a bit 'guilty' for not being focused on my goals.

Surely there has to be some kind of 'middle ground' here?

Can anybody shed any light about how to focus on your goals, yet still remember to have fun in life, without one compromising the other?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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It really helps if your goals bring some type of enjoyment to your life. I don't understand why so many people believe that setting goals is a chore and overall not fun. How a person perceives their goals is as personal as the goals themselves. They have the choice to either enjoy the process or dread it.
 
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Balance is important.

However, time is finite for all of us.

The time you spend doing one thing CANNOT be used to do something else.

ie. 24 hours in a day.

I block off the time for classes, time to sleep, and time for meals. Whatever is left I can devote to studying, or partying. One OR the other. It's up to you what you do with that time, but you do not have the time to do both and both equally well. That is impossible. You may however, do both and do both mediocrely well...but if you want to excel in one area, the simple answer is to put in more time.
 
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