"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Confidence discussion............

MercutioTHEGREAT

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The Art OF Confidence
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Okay I've done some Light Field work today and at school and I've always been scared of girls I'm going to ADmit (some guys can't) But i've manage to get a grade A- girl this summer... It was easy because she like me.:D But now that i'm back single i've noticed That there was always that one thing that kept me from asking out the girl of my dream....whoever she is. So while in the student cafeteria i was with my guys and 3 girls past and i said F*ck that i'm going for that. It was like some different person in me......I've been doing this for a bit now so im getting better at it....I inderstand that In every guy we lack that confidence!!!....Now I've allowed myself to forget anything...about how i look about how many no's she's gonna say and how bad her friends are gonna laugh at me..I began to talk to her keep strict eye contact and i noticed that even if she does say no i'm still gonna win check out this convo


(approach.... now walking away from my crowd of friends and walk over to her and 2 other girls)


Merc: hey (clear throaT) wassup
girl: nothing wassup?
merc: dunno you tell me? I could have sworn you was looking at me
Girl: Yeah I was stairing at you a lil....
at this point my heart is beating so fast
merc: Well i got class in like 5 min and i'm thinking of going out(actually my class ended and i had and hour to the next one) this weekend and i was hoping you could join me i wanna get to know you.
Girl:ummm ummm (5 seconds pause)I can't I have a boyfriend but i'll see you around..
merc: OK das cool (smile and break eye contact and start to breath again)(walk away)
Girl: Hey what was your name again? (coming back towards me)
merc:Merc
Girl: Ok umm I can take your number and call you this weekend maybe we could talk or something
Merc: Oh OK here (give phone number)

(walk awaY)

Now before this success happend i tried this routine 3 times on 3 girls before her.....

1st time: laughed and walked away
2nd time:Rolled eyes and boyfriend showed up
3rd time: girl acted like i wasn't there

Now Through all times i never broke eye contact...and I used madd EYE Seduction..and it worked out for me before the day was over...now today i saw plenty of women and all guys would jus let them pass..

Now i'm here to discuss Why do guys second guess themselves and is their something inside of us and do women intimidate us??

were the balls??I'ved notice that women WANT to be swept up...this girl looked so eager to talk to me even if she had a BF...she was pretty cute a HB8.5 with a great ass....

So plz disscuss if you have any confidence issues talk and if you can help me on my game talk...confidence is the last key for some near to be DJ's and all we can do is help each other if we can disscuss with one another.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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So pimp its scary

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Awesome that you're starting to get that spirit of just doing it.

I like what you said, that you had a plan of attack, and that you're testing the shyt out.

If you are macking on campus, my suggestion is to use a more indirect approach. Talk to them a bit more before you lay it on... give them a chance to get comfortable, then strike when they don't expect it... as a guideline, not a rule.

Good job tho
 

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"merc: Well i got class in like 5 min and i'm thinking of going out this weekend and i was hoping you could join me i wanna get to know you."

Coming on to her way too fast.

Maybe direct game is your thing. I think direct game is weak.

That doesn't mean people don't use it successfully. But I think it's weak.
 

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your right on the direct come on...you got any suggestions for a more indirect approach...It would really help me

And does any one support going with girls that there in class with?
 
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