"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Compliment and Run

Dannyrt34

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Saturday I go to the bar with a new technique that I have never tried before. A friend told me about it and we decided to give it a try. We called it the compliment and run.

It works like this. You see a hot girl you want to talk to. You walk up to her, give her a compliment, such as "You're, hot/beautiful/gorgeous." whichever words you prefer. Then turn around and walk back to where you were when you noticed her. If she's interested, she'll chase you down.

So we head out to the bar/club and hang around in there until we feel comfortable. Everytime we seen some girls we wanted to talk to, we did our compliment and run.

I was amazed, we tried this on around 10 girls and got at least 7 of them chasing after us after we walked away. (Give or take a few, we didn't fully keep track.)

1 Girl said "Hey, wait!" and came after me asking me my name.
Another girl came over just to say thanks and stayed around to have conversation for a little bit.
Another girl came over and wanted me to dance.

The thing about this technique is that it seems like it would only work well in places where you and the girl are going to be in the same vicinity of each other for an extended period of time. As some girls waited a few minutes before making their moves.

The Compliment and Run technique also requires you to use the correct tone when giving the compliment, it took some toying around to get it right. We basically leaned in and said it as softly and smoothly as we could over the music.

I suggest trying this technique out, it seemed to work well. I'm going to try it again next time to make sure we weren't just having our rare lucky nights.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mtlwlu

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I can see those techniques working well in bars where the atmosphere is more calm and chilled, Im not sure that would necessarily work in a high end lounge/bar where the girls are stuck up. Overall I like that technique, definitely giving it a shot next time I go out with my wing.
 
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