"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The coldest rejection

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Now I don't know about you, but the worst kind of rejection is when they don't even reject you. They just stop talking to you.

This recently happened to me and it's practically the one thing in the world that most makes me want to slam my head into a wall repeating "I am such a F#*@ING IDIOT"

Does anybody else get this?

~Phoenix
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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oakraiderz2

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No. Shut up. Get some confidence.
 

john_1234

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I agree with you Noob. I've literally done hundreds of approaches. The worst rejection I ever had was when I approached this girl at a bar. She did not acknowledge me. She just completely ignored me as if I was a ghost. Had she been harsh, like, "As if! Go away creep!" I seriously could brush that off easily. But in this situation, it really annoyed me big time to be treated that way... as if I was some bum on the street that most people ignore.
 

The Comeback Kid

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Phoenix - same thing happened to me near the beginning of the school year.

Some chick was giving me many signs that she "liked" me (some were obvious), but as I eventually realized, she is just a huge tease and an attention wh*re (I'm not just saying that - she really is).

Anyway, feeling 110% sure I've got myself a gf, I asked her out (not directly but enough so she gets the point). She says YES to this and told me to see her after school. So, I do that, I'm ready to hammer out date details and she said that she has a busy week w/ volleyball (4 matches in 7 days), but after that is fine. Unfortunately, she also blocked my screenname, deleted me as her "friend" on MySpace and started avoiding me in the halls (so it looked obvious). Also, I was walking to my car after school and she hides behind the cars so I can't see her (I considered backing up into her, but decided not to...j/k :D ). We haven't talked ever since, and if she tries talking to me again w/o some sort of apology/reason for shielding herself from me...payback time! :p :p :p
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I think the moral of the story is clear, stop sarging at school. If you have a car and a couple bucks, theres plenty of places to go within driving distance. Ideally we'd all just pick up on girls at school while ace'n our finals, but you've got to start somewhere.

If you get a consistent stream of rejections at school, it's difficult to pull your reputation out of the gutter. If you get blown off at some coffee shop or a book store where you don't know the girl, what's the big deal?

Get out and build up your confidence with people you won't have to deal with on a daily basis, then come back to school as a mPUA and lay out the game.


Goodluck
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by socialsecurity
I think the moral of the story is clear, stop sarging at school. If you have a car and a couple bucks, theres plenty of places to go within driving distance. Ideally we'd all just pick up on girls at school while ace'n our finals, but you've got to start somewhere.

If you get a consistent stream of rejections at school, it's difficult to pull your reputation out of the gutter. If you get blown off at some coffee shop or a book store where you don't know the girl, what's the big deal?

Pretty sure he didnt even mention school buddy. But the second paragraph has a rather vaild point.
 

08aisaac

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Ahhh, Java.
This is true. Girls are alot more open, if they don't go to your school, plus you never have to talk to them, if you don't want to.
The rejection does suck. For some reason, that sort happens with the popular preppy freshman that are dating seniors. They think their better than you *lol*. So just avoid those *****'s. Go for real chicks.
 

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Hahaha okay okay, I'll admit I acted like a wussy with this post. Damn. Way to make a first impression on a forum.

Anyways, thanks for the tips and the replies.

I'll be a lot less spineless from now on.

~Phoenix
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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